“LET ME ORDER THESE PARTS BEFORE YOU GO LOOKING FOR THAT PERSON’S WIFE”

Was me having some fun with my husband after he complained that he wished I was more like a friend’s wife who was very on the ball with helping him purchase needed items. At first, I was very hurt. Especially after an evening out with the kids and my husband gave them a whole speech praising them for making the Honour Roll but made absolutely no mention of the mom who was behind the scenes dragging them to the office to study, meeting with their teachers, staying up late to study with them, having constant conversations and pushing them to be their best selves. I’m talking this long speech without congratulation the kids and not one word about me. LOL!

But like my daughter, Julie, reminded me, we get our recognition from God, not from man. I want us in every moment always trying to the best people we’re capable of being all for God’s glory. God and heaven are our audiences. Got that? I want us gong the extra mile in striving to be the best wives, husbands, mothers, fathers and people God Himself would have us to be. Let’s be God’s representatives in the world spreading His love in everything we do. God is our reward!

And I can’t get over how intimately He is involved in our lives. I consider myself my husband’s Vice-President and on a certain business issue we’ve been discussing lately, I’ve kept saying, “Slow and steady wins the race.” Like so many times I’ve said it (I’m such a nag!) because this strategy has been working for our family. So, this morning when I heard him discussing the matter with someone else, I just said to myself, I won’t discuss it again and I’ll let Mr. President do his thing. Like 30 MINUTES LATER, I’m having an appointment with God and unbelievably look what showed up:

… but remember the story of the tortoise and the hare. The tortoise, although he walked SLOWLY AND STEADILY (Wink! Wink!), reached the goal before the quick-footed hare.” – A Return To Love, Marianne Williamson

I immediately sent the pics to my husband as God confirming what I’ve been saying to him all along. Call me the crazy God maniac wife, but for this to show up was no coincident. God is still speaking to us, it’s just for us to PAY ATTENTION.

Like last summer, I kept saying to hubs on a different matter that I felt God saying to go in a certain direction with it. Again, Ms. Nag here, kept stressing him about it. Things didn’t go the way I felt it should have and based on what has since transpired, those feelings from a year ago turned out to be spot on.

HERE’S THE DEAL:

GOD KNOWS EVERYTHING. He knows the future and He knows the utmost best decision for us, but if we don’t learn His voice we sadly miss out on His guidance. God loves each of us so much, but He doesn’t force Himself on us. He patiently waits for us to acknowledge Him and invite Him to be a part of our lives. Me sitting down and having alone times with Him asking for His input in my life has been the best use of my time. I don’t regret one second praying for a closer walk with Him and sitting quietly reading spiritual books seeking to hear His voice. Let me tell ya, if you want to be the best person possible, being, SPEND TIME ALONE WITH GOD GETTING TO KNOW HIM FOR YOURSELF.

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‘I NEED A WIN RUN’

That’s the name of the excellent run I did for three miles yesterday.  This life will try and get us down, but we have to keep reminding ourselves that we’re a part of God’s WINNING team. Heehaw! Despite the setbacks and challenges that want to get in our way, we can break through them or jump over them KNOWING we’re rolling with God and that there is never a moment where we lack His strength, wisdom, and guidance to tackle any and every situation:

“I look to the hills. Where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord. He is the Maker of heaven and earth. He won’t let your foot slip. He who watches over you won’t get tired.” Psalm 121:1-3

The devil won’t put us to shame; we’ll put the devil to shame! So, your girl here needed a little time out running to get back focused. It’s not about how many times we fall, it’s about how many times we rise back up being BETTER than we were before the falls. Rise and shine brighter, baby!

We have God’s spirit empowering us in every moment, and these runs are my alone times with Him where I go and get recharged. “… but the Lord stood with me and strengthened me.”  It was a tough morning, and mentally, I was in a shallow place (life can do that to us sometimes!). But I threw on my sneakers, put on that I need A Win Run and I played a recorded Garnett Silk’s concert from 1994. My mood IMMEDIATELY changed when I heard these words from his song Splashing Dancing:

“O Father who art in Zion

Hear our voice, oh Jah today in our prayer

And accept our thanksgiving

Father, we thank you for all that you have done

And for what you are doing now

The Lord is I shepherd, I shall not want

He maketh me to lie in green pastures

He leadeth besides the still waters

He restoreth my soul, he restoreth my soul”

Nik, The Lord is your Shepherd, you shall not want!!! In other words, keep your focus on God because He is the supplier of ALL YOUR NEEDS, and He is taking WONDERFUL care of you despite the challenges. Your girl was HAPPY again!

Then, unbelievably right before sleeping, I heard my husband with our sons reading, and of the entire Bible I heard them say:

“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want

He maketh me to lie in green pastures”

I took this as a God wink at me because this message meant so much to me earlier that day. And after sharing the story with my daughter, Julie, we go for a 5K run together today and after asking the Nike Run app to shuffle my music library of 868 songs, look what song incredibly played FIRST:

“Father we thank you for all that you have done

And for what you are doing now

The Lord is I shepherd, I shall not want

He maketh me to lie in green pastures

He leadeth besides the still waters

He restoreth my soul, he restoreth my soul” – Splashing Dancing

So, minutes after telling Julie about how much this song meant to me yesterday, God made sure that it was the first song for me to hear on today’s run. Like He was saying, ‘Just in case you didn’t get the message yesterday, Nik, RELAX, I’m taking care of you.’

This life is DIFFICULT, and you can call all of this a coincident if you want, but this is the personality of God I’m getting to know. He finds these amazing and sweet ways to remind me of His constant Presence with me. “He maketh me to lie in green pastures.” No matter the troublesome situations I know my God is with me and that He loves me unconditionally. He’s teaching me to get my recognition from Him and to give Him all recognition.

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I’M LITERALLY AFRAID TO HIRE ANOTHER HOUSE HELP!!!

After the last EVIL experience I had with my cook, I’m scared to bring another new person in my house again. She came on a mission to destroy my home and don’t think I’m being dramatic, either. Stay alert! And stay close to God! The devil comes to kill and destroy.

And like I always tell you, feelings of stress and fear when thinking about going in a particular direction is God saying, ‘Hold up. That’s not a good idea.’ So, for now, the plan is to make moment by moment decisions waiting for God’s direction on when and whom to allow in my home again.

GOD KNOWS EVERYTHING! That’s why I say don’t play with your relationship with Him. He knows the hearts and motives of everyone. And He is ALWAYS speaking to us through our feelings. Anyone you feel uncomfortable around, watch out because God may be trying to tell you something.

I’ve been up from about 6 am washing, cooking, and cleaning. I believe God is asking us to continue carrying Jesus’ cross and whatever I have to do for the sake of keeping my family safe, happy and together, I will JOYFULLY do it knowing God is my strength and Helper. I imagine Him being tied by the neck with me as we journey through life TOGETHER.

I loved a God wink from Him yesterday. Last week I had a beautiful appointment with Him reading Psalm 138. I loved it so much that I got a paper and pencil to write out the words:

“Though I walk in the midst of trouble, thou will revive me: thou shalt stretch forth thy hand against the wrath of mine enemies, and thou right hand shall save me. The LORD WILL PERFECT THAT WHICH CONCERNETH ME…”

Fast forward to yesterday, a message came in from a friend:

Psalm 138:8: “THE LORD WILL PERFECT ALL THAT CONCERNETH YOU.”

Another love note from God! He was also reminding me that He is familiar with all my ways: ‘Nik, I saw you writing out these verses the other day! And they’re correct, I will protect you from your enemies and perfect ALL that concerns you.’ Amen!

See how sweet God is?!? Stand down on hiring any house staff is the feeling I’m getting. Yes, Boss! And like my brother said, God will level out this situation. He has His ways of working behind the scenes of our lives:

“The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.”

Back to my cleaning and washing…

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“I’LL NEVER TAKE THAT FROM ANYONE”

That was from one of my daughters this morning when we discussed a character from a movie we watched yesterday. So, I gave them one of my talks about how I want them living life from a perspective of:

“God, what would YOU have me to do here?”

I know they are so tired of hearing this speech from me, but honestly, this is the best strategy for living. In the 1,000 decisions we make every day, going to God and seeking His wisdom and guidance in any and every situation reflecting the GOD IS LOVE character. He has plans to prosper us and not harm us, but if we’re not going to Him and asking for His wisdom in conducting our lives, we miss out.

“No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. -Psalm 84:11”

Like that cook I hired. I quickly made that decision to give her a try without consulting God first, and that one week she was with us turned out to be awful. THE BIG LESSON I’m taking from this experience is to ALWAYS seek God’s input before doing anything (big and small). I should have taken some time to pray over it first before agreeing for her to come, and letting God be the one to help me through my Spirit discern whether or not this lady was good for our house or not. Meaning I should have paid attention to God’s voice within me. Peaceful, relaxed, happy feelings are usually God saying Yes, go ahead, and stressful, doubtful, fearful, anxious ones are God saying hold on, slow your roll, Nik, maybe this is not a good idea.

GET GOD INVOLVED WITH EVERY DECISION!!! That’s my advice to you. Don’t take my word for it, though, start getting to know God’s voice for yourself. He is with us and for us.

Today, I’m back to my fasting because I want an even closer walk with God – THIS LIFE IS TREACHEROUS! I wish to live continuously in God’s Presence, knowing that there is never a moment in life when I’m alone and away from Him. There is the material side of life and what we can see, but we MUST pay attention to the spiritual side as well – what we can’t see. God sees and knows it all, and He is the ultimate controller and why we can CONFIDENTLY trust Him with our battles. Doing what He would have us to do in every moment and then leaving the rest for Him to fight on our behalf in the spiritual realm. Wink! Wink!

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MY JOY IS GONE

My housekeeper, Joy, that is. Unfortunately, we MUST hold everyone in our lives with OPEN HANDS because no one will be with us forever. WE CAN BE SURE OF GOD, but when it comes to other people, that’s a different matter altogether, let me tell ya.

But Joy has left me with lots of lessons. Like she was EXTREMELY HARDWORKING, and she’s a big reason why I’ve decided to leave my comfort (lazy) zone. I’m inspired! Emmie, my son, gave me a running goal of 100 minutes for today, and I did it! I’m honestly tired of living a mediocre life where I maybe give like 40% effort. I seriously MUST up my game if I’m going to give God more than He expects from me. Joy came to work every day giving her best, and, LOTS OF TIMES, I was the one telling her not to work so hard and to finish up another day, but she would always insist on going full force! I will miss you, my Joy!

She worked as if God was her Boss! And that’s where I want us, keeping our eyes fixed on God and what HE would have us to do, moment by moment. Not looking to anyone else for approval or recognition, but merely looking within ourselves and at God and HIS high values. Remember, God and Heaven are our audiences, and they’re always watching. When we give our best, trust me, God gives us HIS VERY BEST! WinK! Wink! Today, I’m taking another sucker punch, but I know my reward is with Him! He has blessed my life so much that now I run to do whatever is pleasing to Him. God, what would make You happy here?

But despite my lack of push, I’m still proud of the Nikki I’ve been, the Nikki I am now, and the Nikki I will strive to be in the future. Ain’t nobody perfect! When you know better, hopefully, you do better. So, no beating myself up over past mistakes and failures. And no judging anyone else, either. Everyone has their race to run. I so love the story of the adulterer when Jesus asked that whoever was without sin should cast the first stone. Everyone walked away without stoning her. Really, who are we to judge anyone? The only person we should be hard on is ourselves, working on constant and never-ending improvement, ALL FOR GOD’S GLORY. Gentle on others but extremely hard on ourselves!

However, I must tell you how I love my Fierce Babes Club with my two daughters and myself. We’ve committed to helping each other accomplish our goals, like a team training for the Olympics. On Sunday, we met to discuss long term and weekly targets. We’ve also agreed to keep ourselves accountable to excellent standards, even in regards to what we eat, correcting each other whenever necessary. Ember fell off the wagon yesterday in regards to something she promised herself to do, but today I told her I would sit with her so that she makes it happen like real teammates. Discipline, my boo!

“We should never forget, you and I, that everything we do badly should be done well and everything we do well can be done better; and if we’re to go in that direction, we need not only good-will, for our part, but also helpful criticism from others.” – Jesus As Friend by Salvatore Canals

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DEPRESSING THOUGHTS, PLEASE, GO AWAY!!!

TODAY, I RAN SIX MILES IN TWO HOURS UP AND DOWN THE STAIRS OF OUR HOUSE!!! I’m working on a better me, baby! The goal was to get rid of the old Nik and my constant sad and hurtful thoughts, and for a happier and more focused person to emerge. And so far, I think it did the trick! I’ve learned that if I don’t control my thoughts, they will take control of me. Let me tell you, the quality of our thoughts WILL determine the quality of your life!

The run was fantastic! I did another one of my Coach Andy Nike Run Club runs and heard the incredible story of his guest athlete, Lopez Lomong, from being kidnapped in Sudan as a six-year-old kid by rebel soldiers to being an Olympic athlete representing the United States years later.

But, in between listening to his story, I pretty much played one song repeatedly, ‘Let Me Be The One To Love You,’ (William Singe’s version) imagining God singing these lyrics to me:

“You should let Me love you
Let me be the One to
Give you everything you want and need
Ooh baby good love and protection
Make Me your selection
Show you the way love’s supposed to be
Baby love you”

After hearing that one song so many times I said, “God, You got it! I will let You be the One to love me!” Phew! So when the depressing thoughts and reminders come up again about some hurts and disappointments from the past, I can now say, “Go away!!! God’s girl here!” and I can instead focus on God’s love and be happy, keeping no more records of wrongs.

On Saturday, I was asking Him to help me wrap my head around a situation and He answered me. As I was in one part of our bedroom reading my meditation book, my son, Joshie, was asking my husband a question and at the very same time I read the word “SUPPORT,” my husband was responding to our son with the exact word. LIKE PERFECTLY TIMED!!! Of course, I took this as another one of my God winks when out of the blue, everything lines up STRANGELY TOO PERFECTLY, with an important message from God for all of us:

“Of Bearing the Defects of Others

But now God has disposed things that we may learn to bear one another’s burdens; for there is no one without defects, no one without burdens, no one sufficient for himself, no one wise enough for himself, but we must SUPPORT one another, comfort one another, assist, instruct and admonish one another.” – Imitation of Christ

Can we do that for Him? Honestly, that’s what I took from that conversation from Lopez today, how everywhere he went, he considered everyone family the way he was SUPPORTED through his horrific journey. My fav were the boys who helped him to escape the rebel camp who he called his angels. They knew his older brother and immediately when he was brought there, they met him and said something like, “Don’t worry, we’ll take care of you. We’re family.” And they did.

I believe we’re not the human race; we’re the human family! Let’s go the extra mile in loving, supporting, assisting, instructing, and admonishing one another. God is our BOSS, and our reward is with Him. And let Him be the one to love us! His love is more than enough! Wink! Wink!

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“MOMMY, I HATE YOU! I ONLY LOVE DADDY”

That was from my wonderful son, Emmie, the other day when I accidentally mentioned something about his younger brother, Joshie, as if I was comparing the two . Then, his sister, Ember, jumped in saying I do the same thing with her, scrutinizing her against her sister Julie. So, I’ve been the hated mom of the week by my two E’s – Emmie and Ember – with them believing I set them up opposed to my J’s – Julie and Joshie. But can you believe God joined in on our family discussion?!? Here’s how:

All week, I’ve kept trying to defend myself saying that it’s not that I’m comparing, rather, I’m merely pointing out their weaknesses and how they can learn from their siblings to do and be better. “WE’RE NOT RUNNING FROM OUR WEAKNESSES!!!” I constantly repeated. I kept saying that their dad is exceptionally hardworking and that I’m challenging myself to be more like him. I know fighting off laziness is a huge battle for me but I’m not running from my shortcomings, either. No joke!

And here’s where God joined in on the conversation! To fight against my lazy tendencies, I’ve upped my exercise game, and I’m genuinely PUSHING myself to leave my comfort (LAZY) zone. Today, that meant going for a LONG run up and down the stairs of our house. I debated and debated which of the guided Nike Running Club runs I would do, and then I finally landed on a 50-minute one featuring Olympian track star, Colleen Quigley.

I had to sit down and listen in amazement when she spoke about the group of women she trains within the “Bowerman Babes Club.” It was like she had been a part of the conversations with me and my kids! She said that she had surrounded herself with a group of confident women WHO ARE HONEST ABOUT THEIR WEAKNESSES. Exactly what I’ve been trying to explain to my kids! She said that frees everyone in the group to take on those weaknesses and then KICK ASS. She felt that for her truly to become great, it’s not going to only be because of her strengths, but it’s also because she has worked on and tackled weaknesses. Heehaw!!!

You can call this a coincident if you want, but to me, it’s God revealing His intimate Presence through the words of Colleen, with Him lovingly joining in on our family argument. Here I am, the hated parent of the week, simply because I’ve pointed out to my kids some of their not so strong points and how they can learn from their siblings. And then, very out of the blue, this OLYMPIAN ATHLETE shows up in my run speaking about how she and her running buddies’ way to greatness has been THROUGH TACKLING THEIR WEAKNESSES TOGETHER. Of all the guided runs I thought about doing today, God led me to the perfect one!

I then thought that my daughters and I would form our own Babes Club where we’ll do the same thing, opening up about our weaknesses freely with each other and work on being better together. Like an hour after that run, I then go to get my computer from my daughter’s room, and incredibly, next to it, was a bag a friend had given her some years ago, with the words printed on boldly in front “Babes Club” WINK! WINK! written on it. Again, NO COINCIDENT, but God’s sweet way of revealing His invisible Presence with me! It brought to life my words from Him in a recent alone time:

“Ponder these words: He (God) and I. Live them. I (God) and you. I (God) in you.” – He and I

Amen.

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“YOU’VE BEEN A GREAT ADVISER!”


I said yesterday to a person God Himself sent my way! I was calling to say thank you for being my sounding board on a critical issue I had going on that ended up turning out so well. Out of 180 million Nigerians, God connected me with her, and my life has been DRASTICALLY changed for the better. Happy am I for following the advice of the wise!
I’m so thrilled that my daughters and I have had the privilege to be around and to learn from her such qualities as gentleness, softness, calmness, humility, and kindness, and to keep my focus on God and what He would have me to do.. Not one moment spent around her has been wasted. Following her lead has guided me on a path to a wonderful life. Thanks, my sweetie. God knew I needed you in my life! Like seriously!
My hubs and I were talking today, and he was giving me credit for something he is so thrilled about, and I had to correct him saying it was actually advice from this person’s husband that I took to heart and have been harassing him ever since then about it. He has been an outstanding adviser, and I know my hubs has earned the respect of so many people because of his positive influence. That’s why I try not to focus overly on material blessings in these posts because having good relationships are PRICELESS, and they’re another HUGE BLESSING from God.
HERE’S THE DEAL:
Having a relationship with God is like having access to the wisest friends 24 hours a day, seven days a week. God is an expert in everything, and He knows the ultimate best decision we should make on a moment by moment basis. It was God who told me about nine years ago in my Spirit to give this lady a call when I said to my husband so many times I didn’t want any friends in Nigeria. But that nudge (prompting within me) from God to call her was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It was another one of those decisions where I wanted to go right and God said no, go left. We soon after that call had firm times together just about every week.
I said God sent me to her for training for Godly principles on being a wife His way. Her example is working because I’m like the happiest wife ever! She has taught me that no marriage is perfect and there will always be some odd, peculiar, unusual, uniquely me and hubby’s mess that no one else will understand to deal with. That’s marriage!
Don’t play with your relationship with God! He knows the people we need in our lives and the best decisions we need to make. I’m upping my game with Him! I want to wake up earlier and spend two hours every day asking what He has to say to me. You can start with 5 minutes! These appointments/alone times with Him are where I learn His voice and His direction for my life so that when I’m back out in the world, I know what it is He would have me to do. I’ve made God the center of my life, and here I have absolutely no regrets. What time are your appointments with Him? .#GODisreallyREAL

“YOU PRESENTED HIM AS A HORRIBLE PERSON…”

“…You don’t even seem to realize you did this. Nobody is going to admire a man who insults his wife at a party. If you want people to admire your husband, you need to tell a different story about him.”

I LOVE THIS COMMENT because I’m going to use it to be very REAL with you: I HAVE THE PERFECT HUSBAND FOR ME!!! It’s like God had a plan for my life, and He said that this man would be the IDEAL spouse to help me become the absolute best version of myself that GOD HIMSELF created me to be. No joke! The lessons that my hub has taught me have been PRICELESS. I didn’t say easy but priceless.

Like yesterday, he came home from work, and he asked, “What did you accomplish today?” I said, “I cleaned our bathroom.” His next question was, “Why did it get to that state where it was before you cleaned it?”

Believe it or not, that little conversation HIGHLIGHTED SOME CRUCIAL WEAKNESSES THAT I HAVE. The truth is that I’m NOT the person I want to be. For months I’ve had that bathroom on my to-do list to clean and organize properly. But I’m such a huge procrastinator and halfhearted creature, that I don’t give my best to life. The same way I’ve procrastinated on doing some big things like working on my next book. So much so that I’m doing battle with myself with a personal challenge called 50 DAYS OF DISCIPLINE because I’m not just asking “What did you accomplish today? I’m asking myself, “What are you accomplishing with your life?”

And that’s the gift God has given me through my husband. He keeps it real with me. That humiliating question he asked about what I was eating at that party FROM ACROSS THE ROOM, helped push me to lose about 50 pounds, take control of my health, make exercise an essential part of my life, and I’m so much happier because I have a tough husband who is honest and keeps me on the bandwagon of constant self-improvement and vice versa.

Dealing with his honestly over the years has been a challenge (like taking bitter medicine), I’m not going to lie, but I learned a valuable lesson from one of my appointments with God that if someone was to throw 10,000 words at you, look and see what you can take to improve yourself and run with that, ignoring the rest. “What are words, they fly through the air and hurt not a stone!”

Anything my husband says, no matter how bitter tasting, I examine how I can improve, and I’m EXTREMELY grateful to have such a person in my life. No fake and pretend love here! I love how we GET TO BE genuine with each other. We pretty much say what we mean, and we mean what we say. I cherish and appreciate that!

Thanks, my Papa!!! God Himself put us together. I’m your ride or die chick forever. ‘Til death do us part! Keep the criticisms coming, baby! You make me BETTER, STRONGER, WISER AND MORE GRATEFUL TO GOD – YOU’RE MY GIFT FROM HIM!

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“NIKKI, WHAT ARE YOU EATING???”

This was my hubby SCREAMING at his FAT wife from across the room at a party some years ago. Can you believe this was one of those life-changing moments when I decided to work on myself seriously? The then overweight, insecure, overly emotional, unhappy, and unhealthy Nik, used this HUMILIATION as fuel to become BETTER. And that’s precisely what God seems to do with all my darkness. He shines His BRIGHT light, revealing areas where I can improve.

Another EMBARRASSING AND HURTFUL experience happened some weeks ago when I showed up at an office barbecue. At a certain point, my heart fell to the floor. But again, God used this as an opportunity to replace my heart with a stronger, tougher and a MORE LOVING AND FORGIVING ONE. This HUMILIATION taught me about loving others God’s way.

His love is unfailing and constant. No matter how many times I mess up, God seems to say, ‘It’s cool, let’s begin again. No matter how many times you mess up, you can begin again. I’m with you and for you!’ I loved this message in an appointment with Him one day:

“When you try to speak to Me of the past, I’ll place my hand over your mouth and you will hear words of tenderness and mercy that will melt your heart.” – He and I

And that’s the kind of love He is teaching me to show others. That no matter the past we can show them God’s kind of love and mercy:

“When you learn how to sit at the table with your Judas (someone who has betrayed you), you’ll understand the love of Jesus Christ (God).” – Unknown

So, an extremely dark moment was God’s way of bringing lots of LIGHT and LOVE into my heart for EVERYONE. Nobody’s perfect. But the way I’ve found to get closer to God is through LOVING others MORE.

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God because God is love…Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” 1 John 4:7, 8, 11, 12

I’m living my BEST life with God where I seem to constantly ask, “God, what have I done to deserve such love and kindness from You?” Love is the way, baby. Anything anyone else does is between them and God. I’ve stopped seeking the approval of people; God and Heaven are my audience (Wink! Wink!) where the blessings from Him chase me down. Heehaw!

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