‘GOD, WHAT DO I DO? WHAT DO I DO? WHAT DO I DO?’

That was me yesterday, desperately seeking God’s help on a situation that’s making your girl over here very ANGRY. It has stolen so much of my peace and joy, and I needed some advice from God Himself. I began reading my meditation book, He and I, but nothing there answered me. I then decided to read my book, Keep Calm, You’re Rolling With God, and believe it or not, I felt this was His answer:

“Father forgive them for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). Is what I keep in mind whenever I’m tempted to be unforgiving towards anyone. If Jesus can ask God to forgive the people who nailed Him to a cross, I can certainly forgive those who wrong me in any way. “Be at peace with everyone.”

I said, Ok, God, I get it. Forgive. Can you believe, though, God even went as far as confirming that this is what He wanted me to do? He’s too much, let me tell ya! Minutes after reading about Jesus saying, “FATHER FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO,” I go to listen to Wayne Dyer’s podcast’s latest entitled ‘Let Go’ and here’s amazingly what he had to say to a caller who found herself carrying around lots of anger towards family members for years:

“I suggest you practice what one of the great teachers of all times, Jesus of Nazareth, on Golgotha, on the cross. There he was being crucified, probably the worst form of killing someone and his words were, “FORGIVE THEM, FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO.” Wink! Wink!

Do you see how intimately God is involved in our lives? I desperately wanted to hear from Him, and He magically shows up through my book and Wayne Dyer with the same message: NIK, FORGIVE. What kind of love is this?!? God stoops down to my little life to guide me! I feel so much lighter, freer, happier, and focused on being an even better wife, mother and person, all for God’s glory. Phew! Others may hurt and disappoint us, but we can immediately shake them all off, hand them over to Him, and simply move forward in peace, joy, and love. God Himself will be our reward. Wink! Wink! HE DOESN’T DISAPPOINT!

Just saw my girls off to school in their soccer and basketball jerseys, which they must wear for the entire day whenever they have a game. I’m hoping to take my sons to support them leter. The blessings of God in action, baby!

God, May we have MANY opportunities to be pleasing to You. Amen.

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THE BEST GOD WINK EVER!!!

Just in case you’re not familiar with God winks, they’re when things line up TOO perfectly to be some ordinary occurrence, AKA coincidences. They are God’s SWEET way of revealing His invisible Presence with us.

This one began from Sunday when I told the kids we should listen to some Gospel music since we were headed to church. I selected Tasha Cobb’s song, For Your Glory, and I sang these lyrics to God:

I wanna be where You are
Gotta be where You are
I wanna be where You are
Gotta be where You are

For Your glory
I will do anything
Just to see You
To behold You as my King

I wanna be where You are
Peace is where You are
Joy is where You are
And Love is who You

Since then, I’ve played the song over and over and over again, begging God to please let me be where He is. Driving to work today, AGAIN, I played the song for the entire drive. Even getting all emotional about some silly stuff I have going on right now. Begging God to take my mind away from the stresses of the world and to be focused on Him.

Fast forward maybe 30 minutes later, I’m sitting in my office, and I felt the need to hear from God through my meditation book. Continuing from exactly where I had last left off from my appointment with God first this morning, this incredibly shows up after me begging God the entire drive to work for me to where He is, He says:

“Wherever you are, there I am.” – He and I

It doesn’t get any sweeter than this!

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“ARE YOU HAVING ANOTHER MENTAL BREAKDOWN?”

That was my son, Emmie, to me yesterday! LOL! He heard me talking to his dad about a month or so ago when I was feeling extremely OVERWHELMED. I was simply EXHAUSTED from taking on too much, and was venting to my husband, not knowing he had me on speakerphone with our sons listening. It’s ALL good, though. I got to show them that life is difficult sometimes, but we can bounce back KNOWING and confident that God is with us.

Yesterday was another rough day. I needed to recalibrate and talk to God this time about some stuff that went down. After running around with my mom and the kids, I stayed back in the car to have some alone time with God. I decided to read through some of my old posts, with this one being my high five from Him:

“When I feel weak, tired or out of sorts, You’re right THERE TO PUT YOUR ARMS AROUND ME (HUG!), to comfort me and tell me that everything is going to be okay. You reach out and soothe my ruffled nerves, melt away my worries and fears and blow away the confusion that seeks to surround me.”

Then coming home very late and tired, my daughter had left a bag on the kitchen counter, which I had never seen before, saying, “FREE HUGS.” Another wink from Him! To be honest, sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy in thinking that these are really glimpses of God. Like, why would the Creator of the entire universe care so much about me. But at around 3 am this morning, unable to sleep due to a bad stomach ache, I decided to hang out with God, and this message from Him showed up in one of my meditation books:

“I’ll be there, though unseen, and you will feel the sweetness of my Presence.” – He and I”

After reading that, I get back in the house, and there, on top of one of the kitchen stools, was that bag again, “FREE HUGS.” “When I feel weak, tired or out of sorts, You’re right THERE TO PUT YOUR ARMS AROUND ME (HUG!). The sweetness of God’s Presence. That gave me the courage to keep my head high, STAY HAPPY, BELIEVING GOD IS ALWAYS WITH ME.

Don’t be afraid; BELIEVE.

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GOD, WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE ME TO DO HERE?

This is the constant, constant, constant question I want us asking Him! I can’t get over how He just spoke to me about a FRUSTRATING issue I’m dealing with this morning. I started to type this post, asking, “Are you enjoying God?” But then, I changed my mind and said I’ll reshare an old post. I go to my email and start scrolling back to dig up, and old one and I come to one with the same question I wanted to write about today, and look what showed up:

When I vented about A FRUSTRATION to Him, wanting to tell someone off about it, with one glance at God, I knew how to respond: LOVE, FORGIVE, and IGNORE. No more fighting useless battles! And I replied, “YES, MY LOVE!”

I’m talking exactly where I am this beautiful Sunday morning – DEVIL YOU CAN’T STEAL MY JOY! But again, God shows up with the best advice: LOVE, FORGIVE, and IGNORE. Yes, Boss! (SMILE)

But speaking of these useless battles, I’m so thanking God for my brother Kevin who sent me a message months ago telling me where I SHOULD have my FOCUS instead of on the crazy battle I was fighting. I will be thanking him forever! Thanks, K! This is now my new strategy for LIFE. Looking to God in every moment, asking Him to tell me the battles He would have me to fight and the battles He would have me to IGNORE. This is key to living our best lives. Otherwise, we will look back on YEARS wasted trying to climb up the wrong ladders fighting the wrong battles. (Hello!)

I got some beautiful report cards from my smart sons yesterday. It was a couple of months ago when my son, Emmie, asked me, “Mommy, why are you not here to study with me?” I took that such to heart that for his next set of tests, I got on a flight to Nigeria from Florida to study with them.

It was many conversations with God as to whether to go or not to go, and I finally woke up at 5 am one morning to call the airline to make that reservation. I happened to ask the representative where he was and he said, “Manila.” The next day, I’m watching CNN, and there s a map of the world where there honed in on one city: “Manila.” Believe it or not, that was God confirming that it was OK for me to travel and leave my daughters and mom in the US while I went to visit hubs and the boys. The trip was a complete success! I came back with a renewed strength to continue being the supermom, superwife, and superperson God is calling me to be.

This is just another example of how God is very much involved in our lives. We just have to seek Him constantly asking, ‘God, what would You have me to do here?’ Don’t miss out on the BESTEST life with God!!!! (HUGE SMILE!!!) Off to church!!!

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“BE ON CHILL FOR LIFE”

That’s the FANTASTIC message from my brother, Kevin, that I will be RUNNING with from now on!!! “On chill” is used to describe a relaxed state of mind where there isn’t anything serious to worry about (urbandictionary.com). Not only was this a message from Kevin, but God confirming that this is where HE ALSO WANTS ME TO BE (and you too!). I wrote a post a couple of days ago about how God speaks to me through this song:

“Maybe we can be ON CHILL tonight…I’m trying to hear all your problems so I can lighten the load. Know you’re not fighting alone because I’m protecting you from them (SO CHILL)” – On Chill, Wale

Fast forward that afternoon, extremely jetlagged after flying from Nigeria, I go to bed early and decide to catch up on weeks of The Housewives of Atlanta episodes. I continued watching from precisely where I had last left off weeks ago. Amazingly, five minutes in, Cynthia brags about receiving a necklace from Eva with one word: “CHILL.”

God, I get the message! See how He has such a funny sense of humor! This just lined up TOO perfectly to be an ordinary coincident. It was all orchestrated by Him to let me know that He is with me, and He doesn’t want His girl stressing about ANYTHING.

So, I’m officially on chill. Relaxed mode. The challenges are still there, but I’m trusting God is behind the scenes helping me, giving me the solutions, people, courage, stamina, and Himself tweaking situations on my behalf in the spiritual realm (Wink! Wink!). I DO MY BEST AND LET GOD DO THE REST. The disappointments are also there, but I immediately SHAKE THEM OFF and return to counting my blessings.

Like one of my fav cars I’ve EVER driven was a black Honda Odyssey. I loved it! I was so sad when we sold it (life of a car dealer!). Coming back from Nigeria, though, what was the first car I see at our gate: an even nicer, newer, black Honda Odyssey. It was like God Himself saying, ‘Nik, I got this for you!’ It’s perfect for taking my mom and four kids around, starting hopefully to church tomorrow. The strange thing is my husband didn’t like me driving it because he thought it suited a nerdy mom. Hello, that’s me, a SUPER nerdy mom! No shame in my game! “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Wink! Wink! On chill for life, baby, with my eyes fixed on God!!! Ain’t worried bout nothing! Are you with me?

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“THIS IS UNFORGIVABLE!!!”

That’s from my girl, Porsha, from The Housewives of Atlanta. She found out very publicly that her fiancée had been cheating on her.

HERE’S THE DEAL:

RELATIONSHIPS ARE SUPER TOUGH!!! But God has beautifully been my Guide in helping me navigate them all. From the people I work with, my kids, my handsome hubby here, close relatives, and friends, God has been my Wonderful Counselor. I can go to Him at any moment, asking for His advice on handling situations, even the most difficult and hurtful ones. I can feel Him in my spirit, nudging me as to what He would have me to do. This is precisely where I want all of us: Not making any move without talking to God about it first!!!

“We’re sticking with you, boo!” That was me and my son, Emmie, to my husband recently. “You guys better stick with me. No one will treat you better than the way I treat you.” And it’s the honest truth. I have new respect and love for him. HE SHOWS US HIS GENUINE LOVE. But most importantly, I feel how much God loves him. So much so, that even if I get upset with him, I FEEL God saying to me, ‘Nik, forgive. Focus on all the wonderful things hubs does. Be patient. Nobody’s perfect.’ Even when I want to turn into the crazy lady, with one glimpse at God, I know what He would have me to do: Calm down.

Following God’s lead has brought me to a happy place in my life. Not only in regards to my husband, but in all my significant relationships. Like Pitbull taught me, “Ain’t nothing perfect, girl.” God is teaching me, through my appointments/alone times with Him, to focus on the good in others and His values:

“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.…”

I don’t know how God does what He does, but all I know is that He has brought me and hubs through some pretty rough times with even MORE love and respect for each other. I pray Porsha will have lots of conversations with God for herself as to what HE would have her to do. God’s ways are always best! Sometimes that means enduring some hurts and humiliations, but we do it all for the glory of God. We can go through the darkest nights, yet still stay strong and committed, with our hopes high that everything will work together for our good. God Himself is our reward! Wink! Wink!

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FINISH THIS SENTENCE: THE LORD HAS ________

I don’t know about you, but He has EXCEEDED MY EXPECTATIONS in every aspect of my life. I’m always freaking out, asking Him, “How did this happen?” God has been faithful, and I fall more and more in love with Him every day.

Last night I went to sleep with all four of my kids under one roof. I’m not lucky; I’m blessed! Even I had no problem with my terrible sleeping sons coming to bed with me. The girls and my mom did a terrific job taking care of each other while I traveled to Nigeria to pick up the boys to spend the holidays with us. God made it happen!

And I want you with me, more in love with God every day. Yesterday, I had a busy day, even though I said I wanted to get some rest after the long flight. We needed to do a BJ’s run to stock up on foods that my sons like to eat, and as I went into the car, I said to God, ‘Sorry I didn’t think about you so much today.’ A few seconds later, the lyrics in a song on the radio said, “FALL IN LOVE,” precisely as I looked down on the screensaver on my phone saying the same thing, “FALL IN LOVE.” Wink! Wink!

That was another one of my God winks, where out of the blue, everything lines up too perfectly to be a regular coincident. It was God revealing His invisible Presence with me as if saying, ‘Nik, you might have forgotten about Me today, but I will never forget about you, not even for one second.’

The song playing on the radio has also been a special one between God and me, lately. I play it over and over and over again as I imagine Him saying the lyrics to me:

“We’ve been on a tragedy for months… Maybe we can be on chill tonight…I’m trying to hear all your problems so I can lighten the load. Know you’re not fighting alone because I’m protecting you from them (SO CHILL)” – On Chill, Wale

The tragedy for months parts has been no joke! The separation from hubs and my sons has been off the charts difficult. It’s a good thing that I’ve given up alcohol because I would’ve been right back there to numb all the depressing thoughts. But God stood with me:

“I will guide them along paths that they have not known. I will make the darkness become light for them, and the rough ground smooth.” – Isaiah 42:16

All the stressful, painful, crazy, and depressing thoughts that were weighing your girl down, God has melted them away, saying, “Nik, let’s be on chill. Relax. Stop all the worries and anxieties. I got you.”

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I FINALLY GET IT!!!

At every moment, we have God’s love, power, generosity, strength, wisdom, patience, charm, personality, influence, Spirit, angels, warmth, and friendship backing us up. Are you guys getting this???? God is intimately involved in every nanosecond of our lives, just waiting for us to remember that, although invisible, He is there with us. SWEET!!!

It took a conversation with someone early this morning that brought this idea home. I have a way of making some pretty cutting, hurtful, and rude remarks sometimes, and in that conversation, before making one of those awful comments, I held my tongue, looked to God, and asked, ‘What would please You here?’ I felt Him respond through my Spirit, ‘Nik, don’t say that!’ And I didn’t, and instead responded with gentleness, kindness, and love, all for God’s happiness and honor. Love is not rude.

The BIG lesson is that I need us to up our game in doing an even better job of continuously going to God and responding to EVERYONE and EVERYTHING from His perspective. Trust me, like in that conversation today, instead of saying the wrong things, God gave me His tact, charm, genuineness, and charisma to respond from His loving and kind character. And it’s ALWAYS available to us. GOD IS OUR GREATEST FRIEND.

I so enjoyed talking to a priest recently. We summed up God in three words: GOD IS LOVE. And He is counting on us to reflect that to a watching world. That’s what I believe would please Him greatly. The more beautiful we are, in our words and deeds, the more beautiful God looks. Wink! Wink! NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE SAID, EITHER. People should want a relationship with God because of us and not vice versa.

Even with problems. I so want to figure out how I will handle the difficulties of my life, but God is showing me that I don’t have to have everything all figured out. This message showed up on WhatsApp, and I knew I was indeed a message from God to me:

“But God is saying to you…Be still and know that I am your God. I will fight all your battles and give you victory.”

That means relaxing (not in a lazy way!), confident, and having a continuous thought of God being with us and for us, seeking to do what He is asking of us. His constant advice as to what to do, what to say, and where to go, leads us to a life of joy, purpose, peace, success, and victory no matter the challenges – may no darkness weight is down by the grace of God!

Let me tell ya, His direction hasn’t failed me yet! I LOVE MY LIFE WITH GOD! WILL YOU JOIN US?

“Grant me the grace, O Lord and Saviour, to never allow time to elapse between the desiring and the putting into practice that which You want. Amen.” – The Imitation of Christ

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“WHY IS IT TAKING YOU THREE HOURS TO BEGIN YOUR RUN?”

That was my brilliant son, Emmie, yesterday. I kept telling them I’m going for a run, I’m going for run, when he finally asked that. But I’m so happy he did! Why did it take me three hours to begin a 20-minute jog? And if I’m honest with myself, it because I’m back THINKING THE WRONG THINGS. ‘God, I thought I had this problem handled!’ But obviously, NOT.

No shame in my game, though, I’m back beating my head with a stick. When those negative thoughts come up, I want us politely referring them to God, keeping our eyes FIXED on Him in every moment. I’m talking taking every idea DIRECTLY to God, asking for His guidance and direction AS WE LOOK AT THE SITUATION FROM HIS ALMIGHTY PERSPECTIVE. I want us owning whatever situations we find ourselves in, giving an even stronger mental effort to always seeking God’s direction and what He would have us to do.

When the negative thoughts pop up that want to make us sad, worrisome, fearful, frustrated, annoyed, depressed, and anxious, we simply, beat our head with a stick and say, ‘No, no, no, I’m rolling with God, the Creator of the entire Universe. I’m KEEPING MY EYES FIXED ON HIM AND NOT THIS CRAZY WORLD. He can carry oceans in one hand!!!’ From there, we simply do OUR best with what God directs us to do, and trusting God to do the rest! Kk?

Like this handsome son, Joshie (pictured here), dragged me out to their school early this morning to see him get recognized for Math and Honor Roll. Shortly after that, I met with my husband on some ideas on how to take our business to the next level. I told him the other day that we are in legacy mode, leaving behind some significant values to our kids to pass on to their kids, to hopefully pass on to their kids, and so on. FAITH in God is number one on the list. He hasn’t disappointed us yet! ALL EYES ON GOD as we continue to be the excellent, going the extra mile in love, full of faith people He is calling us to be, NO MATTER WHAT’S GOING ON AROUND US. Amen!

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“HOLD MY HEAD UP HIGH, I’LL STAND TALL”

Were the words I fell in love with from the Boyz to Men’s song, I Will Get There, while working on my book again until about 2 a.m. It has to be in a particular format and instead of wasting time complaining about it, I’m doing what my DVD exercise trainer, Shaun T, has taught me – to dig deep, having the endurance for exercising as well for my life. Honestly, I’ve become very lazy, but I’ve decided today that I will accept God’s invitation to play life at a higher level and areas where I’ve been weak, I will become strong.

And about this playing life at a higher level, God has challenged me again through the rapper, Prince EA, to answer a vital question: “Who am I in the deepest sense?” He spoke about us being loyal to conditioned thoughts passed on from generation to generation. Thoughts that we’re so loyal to that we’ve fought over, killed over, gotten angry, sad and depressed over. Me included! I get sad and depressed over the same crazy thoughts over and over again. I’ve had enough! I’m going to the next level of focusing on important goals like bringing humanity closer to God, seeing my children grow up to be the superhumans they’re capable of becoming, helping my husband take our businesses to new levels of success, and becoming the most awesome version of me.

That means no more constantly thinking crazy thoughts such as worry, fear, and insecurity; They’re not becoming of superhumans rolling with God! Instead, we pray, work hard and let God worry, doing our best and leaving the rest with Him. That also means we’re spiritually and mentally disciplined to new levels of thinking about our lives, goals, dreams, and aspirations and we’re constantly, constantly, constantly catching ourselves when we find ourselves thinking negatively and saying, No, no, no! We’re not going there! and reprograming our minds with new thoughts with the best and most beautiful outcomes.

We must beat our minds with a stick, becoming mentally disciplined, focused and strong like John Joseph taught me.
I can already see my husband and me at our kids’ college graduations and me doing significant work in the world for God. I have faith and like the Boyz to Men song says, “I will get there!”

“Hold my head up high, I’ll stand tall. And I swear this time I won’t fall.”

Dear God, help us to dig deep and become the superhumans You intended for us to be. Amen.

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