CALL ME NIKKI SO DUMB, BUT I SAY I’M NIKKI SO SMART!!!

I know a lot of what I write and talk about may seem as if I’m the silliest person in the world, but honestly, this God stuff has led my life on a very beautiful path. Let me tell ya, God’s ways are not our ways, but they’re always on point and so much BETTER. Wink! Wink!

Like a time I will never forget when hubby and I were having a huge disagreement. I finally went to God with it, asking what He had to say about the matter and I opened DIRECTLY to this in my meditation book:

“Although your opinion is good, if for God’s sake you leave it to follow another, it will be more profitable for you.” – The Imitation of Christ

I knew this was no coincident that I opened to this, but God directing me to go along with my husband in this matter. I did exactly that. I gave up what I wanted and went along with hubby, and everything ended up more beautiful than I could’ve ever imagined. There I was fighting for days to have my way and just with that one sentence, God gave me His wisdom, and it worked.

That was years ago, but this advice is still working. I may lose many small battles here and there, but when I look at the BIG picture, your girl is a BIG WINNER all the way with God. Sometimes I complain to Him about stuff, but then I feel so silly afterward because I say I have NOTHING to complain about. Nothing. I have a great life. All thanks to God’s excellent guidance!

And I want you here with me. Allowing God to be the BIG BOSS of your life, going to Him in the 1,000 decisions you make every day asking for His will to be done. NOT EASY. But when you do follow Him with a joyful, ‘Yes, Father,’ He will lovingly guide you on the path He has for you — His plans for us are REAL GOOD. I loved this question from an appointment with Him this week:

“Don’t you know that I give far more than you expect. Haven’t you noticed this spiritually, materially?” – He and I

Me God, Me!!! I’ve noticed! And why I’m soooo sticking with You doing whatever is pleasing to You in every moment because you give me FAR more than I could even ask or think – protection, health, wisdom, guidance and LOVE!!! God, I’m on your team for LIFE, putting as much love as possible into everything I do, even the small stuff!

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I’M NOT ENJOYING YOU; I’M ENDURING YOU!!!

That was me joking with my hubby the other day! This marriage thing is no joke! But the great news is that God Himself is intimately involved in every aspect of our lives and He has become my wonderful Relationship Counselor. And His advice has led me on a path to a beautiful life, including finding the best husband in the world (SMILE).

HERE’S THE DEAL:

In every moment, we can look to God for guidance and direction on what to say, what to do, where to go, I’m talking 24/7 guidance direct hotline to God. Like the other day, I wrote how I was afraid to get any more house staff after some awful recent experiences. If I had to wake up early to get washing, cleaning, ironing, and cooking done, no problem. They were that bad! And I decided to wait for God’s direction on what He would have me to do.

So, one morning, I’m in our kitchen, and the words “Call Vera” came clearly to mind. Vera is someone who has helped me in the past to find people to work, but feeling so hesitant of hiring anyone, I didn’t call her. That was until those words popped into my mind, “Call Vera.” I PAID ATTENTION and she sent me the following day a lady who has already began work and who I’m very impressed with. She shows up early, and she works very hard. But most importantly, OUR HOUSE IS AT PEACE. And PEACE for me means God is happy with HER being here.

After you get to know God, you’ll begin to know and understand His voice. “Call Vera” was definitely from Him and one of His magic solutions that He would have pop in my head when I have situations I need His help with. I KNOW HIS VOICE.

Sometimes it’s just a feeling. When I think about going in a particular direction and feel anxious or uneasy about it, I know its God saying, ‘DO NOT DO THAT!’ Versus peaceful feelings are Him saying it’s OK to make that move. The more I get to know Him through my alone times with Him, the better I know where He is guiding me.

The alone times are also where I learn the person He would have me to be in the world and that He is always there to help me. All day, I’m learning to keep my eyes FIXED on God. This gives me such joy and peace, knowing I have the Creator of the Universe as my incredible Guide and Mentor. Not to mention how He makes me feel so incredibly and unconditionally loved, approved of and accepted. No human love can compete with a love like His, let me tell ya! Are you getting to know God better?

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WE’RE EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM OTHER PEOPLE!!!

That’s my remarkable discovery of today! Talking to a friend and hearing her talk about her disappointments made me realize that we EXPECT WAY TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS. Me included!!! I’m seriously getting this wrong myself. We need to expect MORE from GOD and LESS from PEOPLE. Got that?

Watching a show today made me cry. It was my fav person who communicates what dead people say to their still living relatives. And a deceased father was saying that he regretted not showing his older son more love and attention while he was alive. The son was there, and I could imagine the pain he has gone through not feeling the love he was EXPECTING from his father.

HERE’S THE DEAL:

People can only give us so much. We have no idea the baggage they’re carrying around and what they’re trying to deal with themselves mentally. We need to stop giving everyone such a hard time and be more gentle and more loving. I loved what God had to say to me in an appointment with Him recently:

“And if you often repeat this loving effort of your mind, you will gain the habit of living more with your Creator than with any created thing, more than the unseen than the seen. You will get to the point where you can use the things of earth and relations with people only for the love of God’s kingdom and for His glory. That, my child, is pure love—never to think of oneself but of God and how best you can please Him.” – He and I, Gabrielle Bossis

Wow! Imagine getting to that point that we just love everyone for God’s glory and do everything pleasing to Him in every moment. What a wonderful world this will be. Let’s give it a try!

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“ASK ME HOW I’M DOING? I’M BLESSED!!!”

Thank you, Charlie Wilson, for this beautiful song that just made my day:

“Living every moment, no regrets 
Smile on my face, I’m like oh yes 
I’m blessed yes, I’m blessed yes”

I LOVE MY LIFE WITH GOD!!! Have you taken a long look at what God is doing for you? Well, I do all the time! And that’s why I can tell you with all the confidence that a life lived pleasing and close to God is the way to an extraordinary life. I couldn’t even imagine this path God has wonderfully guided my life. Let me tell ya, His plans for us are REAL good! So don’t miss out!

HERE’S THE DEAL:

Life is filled with hurts, humiliations, mistakes, disappointments, failures, frustrations, challenges, and bitterness. But I want us POLITELY handing them ALL over to God and HAPPILY go on with life with our FOCUS on God and all that He is doing for us. I spoke to Aunty O again, who taught me to swallow all these hurts and disappointments that come my way. I wanted her to know how her advice made me so happy. She said life is too short to be carrying around all these negative feelings with us. LET THEM GO!!! I want to spend my life happy and full of Joy!!!

My new screensaver says: Whatever is true, right, admirable, excellent or praiseworthy-Think about such things! Amen!

Let’s live a life pleasing to God in every moment, forgetting what anyone else is doing, just being the loving people He would have us to be and leave the rest with Him!

“ASK ME HOW I’M DOING? I’M BLESSED!!!”

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NIKKI, WHAT’S THE PROBLEM HERE?

I was so upset at myself for all the negative thinking that got the best of me on Saturday. Despite all the beating my head with a stick to focus on all the HUGE positives in my life, I stayed stuck on THINKING THE WRONG THINGS. And let me tell ya, when your mind is filled with negativity, it’s tough to be happy and focused on what’s truly important.

But your girl here has bounced back with LOTS of lessons. Like this beating our heads with a stick. We have to do this every day reminded of this famous verse:

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8

We can CHOOSE to be HAPPY and CONTENT no matter what life throws our way focused on all our BLESSINGS. It takes LOTS of practice beating our heads with sticks so we can stay focused on God and the thoughts He Himself would have us to think, but so worth it. But looking back to how far I’ve from the Nik who used alcohol as her go-to sedative, I’m thrilled. Alcohol now has no more place in my life!

But I’m happy for this eye-opener on Saturday. I’m thanking God for showing me that I still have to fight against these frustrating thoughts. I can now work on being BETTER. My prayer is for God to help us all throw off anything that’s holding us back from living our best and happiest lives with Him. I need to be MORE alert, and as soon as I catch myself in one of those moods, I can say, ‘No, no, no! We’re not going there!!!’ And then get my mind focused back on God and His will for me.

Let’s get rid of anything that’s keeping us from being our best and HAPPIEST SELVES. When we fall and have these failures, let’s quickly get back up and then use them for our good by reflecting on where we went wrong and how we can be BETTER. All for God’s glory!!!

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HOLD MY HEAD UP HIGH, I’LL STAND TALL”

Were the words I fell in love with from the Boyz to Men’s song, I Will Get There, while working on my book again until about 2 a.m.

It has to be in a particular format and instead of wasting time complaining about it, I’m doing what my DVD exercise trainer, Shaun T, has taught me – to dig deep, having the endurance for exercising as well for my life. Honestly, I’ve become very lazy, but I’ve decided today that I will accept God’s invitation to play life at a higher level and areas where I’ve been weak, I will become strong.

And about this playing life at a higher level, God has challenged me again through the rapper, Prince EA, to answer a vital question: “Who am I in the deepest sense?” He spoke about us being loyal to conditioned thoughts passed on from generation to generation. Thoughts that we’re so loyal to that we’ve fought over, killed over, gotten angry, sad and depressed over. Me included! I get sad and depressed over the same crazy thoughts over and over again. I’ve had enough! I’m going to the next level of focusing on important goals like bringing humanity closer to God, seeing my children grow up to be the superhumans they’re capable of becoming, helping my husband take our businesses to new levels of success, and becoming the most awesome version of me.

That means no more constantly thinking crazy thoughts such as worry, fear, and insecurity; They’re not becoming of superhumans rolling with God! Instead we pray, work hard and let God worry, doing our best and leaving the rest with Him. That also means we’re spiritually and mentally disciplined to new levels of thinking about our lives, goals, dreams, and aspirations and we’re constantly, constantly, constantly catching ourselves when we find ourselves thinking negatively and saying, No, no, no! We’re not going there! and reprograming our minds with new thoughts with the best and most beautiful outcomes.

We must beat our minds with a stick, becoming mentally disciplined, focused and strong like John Joseph taught me.

I can already see my husband and me at our kids’ college graduations and me doing significant work in the world for God. I have faith and like the Boyz to Men song says, “I will get there!”

“Hold my head up high, I’ll stand tall. And I swear this time I won’t fall.”

Dear God, help us to dig deep and become the superhumans You intended for us to be. Amen.   KEEP CALM—YOU’RE ROLLING WITH GOD

“THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT GOD DID THIS FOR US”

Was me to a friend today! God is so intimately involved in our lives, and I will never get over how He generously showers me with His deep love and faithfulness. I’m like, ‘Wow, God! You did all this?’

And it all began one day when my daughter, Ember, surprisingly called me from her school requesting to be picked up early. I didn’t hesitate because she hardly ever wants to miss school. When she got in the car, I asked her if I should take her home or if she would come to work and hang out with me for a bit. She asked to go to work, and our time alone together there was the beginning of God revealing some pretty spectacular plans He was working on behind the scenes for us.

Let me tell ya, God is too much!!! I have new confidence and respect for Him that whatever He asks of me, I try to do my best to please Him. Finish. Everything is between God and me, not between me and anyone else. Got that?

I woke up this morning to this beautiful message from Him:

“I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]” – John 16:33 AMP

God, tell me about it! This verse is spot on! There are so many annoying and frustrating situations we have to deal with, but with God on our side we can be cool and calm while He’s at work in the supernatural realm on our behalf. Wink! Wink!

Our job is to listen to what He would have us to do on a moment by moment basis. This is very difficult sometimes, but so worth it. When we do the hard stuff God expects of us like going the extra mile in love and kindness, we can celebrate and be glad because GREAT is our reward from Him.

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“WHY ARE YOU HERE???”

I asked a wonderful lady who came to visit me at our office yesterday. She replied, “I want to learn how to hear from God.” Oh my goodness, that made the God maniac here super happy and excited to tell her all about my appointments (alone times) with God reading a variety of spiritual books asking God what specifically He wants to say to me. Prayer is you talking to God, but meditation is God talking to you! These meetings with Him, help me to discern His important voice, so that when I’m back out in the world, I know what it is God would have me to do or say on a moment by moment basis. Don’t play with your relationship with God!

I bragged to this person how He is helping me so much in every aspect of my life, especially relationships and dealing with people – so crucial to living your best life! We need other people! Like my wonderful husband. He can go from one moment being my gift from God to the next moment being my CROSS that I must lovingly and joyfully continue carrying from Jesus for God. LOL!

However, God has been patiently teaching me FLEXIBILITY depending on each person and situation I’m dealing with. From learning God’s voice during the alone times, I can pretty much tell where He would have me to go. Sometimes that means being meek, humble, gentle, loving, merciful, light, joyful, playful and other times He’s calling me to be tough, strong, brave, persistent, courageous, fearless, unflinching, and determined.

So, all day, I listen to Him. When challenges arise, that means even more intense conversations with God because I need His wisdom to guide me through safely. He has been the best Advisor ever. He’ll say to me, “Do this!” “Talk to this person!” “Go here!” I’m talking about specific instructions through my Spirit!

Moreover, before situations do become major challenges, I’m learning to go to Him to set the agenda for every day, “God, what is the work of today, please?” Today, it was running for 5 miles up and down our stairs for about two hours. Believe it or not, this is God’s way of helping me become the Nikki He would have me to be in the world. With every run, I’m gaining endurance, strength, joy, peace, mental clarity, a sense of accomplishment (I did it!), satisfaction and the fortitude to take on whatever life brings my way. I love it! Warrior Nikki, baby!

So as I work on becoming a better me and getting closer to God, I pray I inspire you to do the same. Let’s up our God game!!! When will your alone times with Him take place?

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