“WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THE KINDNESS OF MY HUSBAND?” (REPOST)
That was me to my hubby last night as he served the boys and me the most delicious dinner. He didn’t eat with us because he was entertaining a guest, but we enjoyed ourselves without him. Then, this morning, they woke me up to eat a big breakfast with them, and even though I’m not a breakfast eater, I said, ‘Nik, you must eat!’ after hubby said they weren’t eating without me.
With all this love I’m receiving from hubs and the boys now that I’m back in Nigeria, my assignment from God showed up in a Bible verse:
“Honor those leaders who work so hard for you (that’s my husband!)… Overwhelm them with appreciation and love.” 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13
Watching a Whatsapp message this morning about how a country has forgiven another country for an atrophic war act, I was reminded that this is where God wants us all, going overboard with love and forgiveness for everyone. God’s love, mercy, and faithfulness are renewed every day for us, and that’s where we should be with everyone. In fact, I’ve promised God to be that loving, kind, and forgiving person He has called me to be in every moment, seeking to please Him in everything I do and say. Everything is between God and us, not between us and anyone else.
Instead of worrying, I’m handing over the difficult parts of the battles with God knowing I handle nothing alone. My strength, wisdom, and guidance come from the Lord! God exceeds my expectations and gives me even more than I can ask or expect from Him. Let’s all commit to a stronger relationship with God, aiming to make everything we do, say, and even think pleasing to Him as we enjoy the sweet (even though difficult sometimes) with Him as our loving Partner. He said to me in an appointment with Him, say anything I want to Him, but to others, I should be silent. I should hide all my ugliness in His heart (it’s a hospital!). God, done.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23
“SWEET THING…DON’T YOU KNOW YOU’RE MY EVERYTHING!”
Oh, my goodness! That was me singing to God on my morning run with Him up and down our stairs, and I don’t want you missing out on the best relationship EVER! I’ve surrendered my entire life to Him, and this morning He reminded me to be about enjoying Him more. So that run was more like a praise and dance session with me giving God such thanks for EVERYTHING He is doing for me. God, I’m incredibly grateful!
Hubby insisted I have breakfast with him and the boys, and I couldn’t refuse the best husband in the world. We had a big fuss the other day, and it turns it we needed the little hash out to come through it with even more of a love and commitment to each other. God’s ways are not our ordinary human ways; they’re so much better. He knows the experiences we need to get to the other side of where He would have us.
The boys and I spent a beautiful day with friends yesterday, AGAIN reminded of how blessed we are. God has guided our lives on the most beautiful path, including the best people. Even though we all may go through our tough times, there is still so much to be thankful for that we should not take anything for granted. Let’s be about loving extravagantly, forgiving endlessly, and rendering evil with good knowing our reward is with God.
How is your relationship with Him going? I promise, as you take one step closer to Him, he will take a hundred closer to you. My God wink of the day was thinking I needed some Comet cleaner to get our tub back looking white again, and like two hours later, I walked past a room that my husband happened to leave open, and there were 9 extra-large containers of the very Comet I wanted. It was a room where my sister in law had lots of stuff in storage, and after packing all the other things, they left behind these Comet cleaners that God knew would be special to me. Like He was saying, ‘Was this what you wanted for your tub, Nik?’ just hours after having that thought. The attention I get from God is too much! He’s my sweet thing…my everything! Even down to bathroom cleaner, He says, ‘Nik, I got you!’ Make Him your life partner, seeking His guidance in the 1,000 decisions you make every day continually asking, God, what would You have me to do here?
“WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THE KINDNESS OF MY HUSBAND?” (REPOST)
That was me to my hubby last night as he served the boys and me the most delicious dinner. He didn’t eat with us because he was entertaining a guest, but we enjoyed ourselves without him. Then, this morning, they woke me up to eat a big breakfast with them, and even though I’m not a breakfast eater, I said, ‘Nik, you must eat!’ after hubby said they weren’t eating without me.
With all this love I’m receiving from hubs and the boys now that I’m back in Nigeria, my assignment from God showed up in a Bible verse:
“Honor those leaders who work so hard for you (that’s my husband!)… Overwhelm them with appreciation and love.” 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13
Watching a Whatsapp message this morning about how a country has forgiven another country for an atrophic war act, I was reminded that this is where God wants us all, going overboard with love and forgiveness for everyone. God’s love, mercy, and faithfulness are renewed every day for us, and that’s where we should be with everyone. In fact, I’ve promised God to be that loving, kind, and forgiving person He has called me to be in every moment, seeking to please Him in everything I do and say. Everything is between God and us, not between us and anyone else.
Instead of worrying, I’m handing over the difficult parts of the battles with God knowing I handle nothing alone. My strength, wisdom, and guidance come from the Lord! God exceeds my expectations and gives me even more than I can ask or expect from Him. Let’s all commit to a stronger relationship with God, aiming to make everything we do, say, and even think pleasing to Him as we enjoy the sweet (even though difficult sometimes) with Him as our loving Partner. He said to me in an appointment with Him, say anything I want to Him, but to others, I should be silent. I should hide all my ugliness in His heart (it’s a hospital!). God, done.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23
“SWEET THING…DON’T YOU KNOW YOU’RE MY EVERYTHING!”
Oh, my goodness! That was me singing to God on my morning run with Him up and down our stairs, and I don’t want you missing out on the best relationship EVER! I’ve surrendered my entire life to Him, and this morning He reminded me to be about enjoying Him more. So that run was more like a praise and dance session with me giving God such thanks for EVERYTHING He is doing for me. God, I’m incredibly grateful!
Hubby insisted I have breakfast with him and the boys, and I couldn’t refuse the best husband in the world. We had a big fuss the other day, and it turns it we needed the little hash out to come through it with even more of a love and commitment to each other. God’s ways are not our ordinary human ways; they’re so much better. He knows the experiences we need to get to the other side of where He would have us.
The boys and I spent a beautiful day with friends yesterday, AGAIN reminded of how blessed we are. God has guided our lives on the most beautiful path, including the best people. Even though we all may go through our tough times, there is still so much to be thankful for that we should not take anything for granted. Let’s be about loving extravagantly, forgiving endlessly, and rendering evil with good knowing our reward is with God.
How is your relationship with Him going? I promise, as you take one step closer to Him, he will take a hundred closer to you. My God wink of the day was thinking I needed some Comet cleaner to get our tub back looking white again, and like two hours later, I walked past a room that my husband happened to leave open, and there were 9 extra-large containers of the very Comet I wanted. It was a room where my sister in law had lots of stuff in storage, and after packing all the other things, they left behind these Comet cleaners that God knew would be special to me. Like He was saying, ‘Was this what you wanted for your tub, Nik?’ just hours after having that thought. The attention I get from God is too much! He’s my sweet thing…my everything! Even down to bathroom cleaner, He says, ‘Nik, I got you!’ Make Him your life partner, seeking His guidance in the 1,000 decisions you make every day continually asking, God, what would You have me to do here?
Let me tell ya! Last night, hubby brought up an issue again where he feels I did something very awful (which I didn’t), and I’ve been just ignoring him, forgiving him, and doing my best to stay on the high road with God. This has been going on for months, but at that time he brought it up yesterday, I felt I should address it, once and for all. I asked him what would make him think I would do such a terrible thing in the last nineteen years of our relationship. I said this wife who has been with you, stuck with you, supported you, been by your side through all the difficulties and challenges that come our way, your ride or die chick, why would you keep saying and thinking such a thing about me.
At that point, Joshie, our ten-year-old son, comes in, and we started discussing it with him. I said to both of them that I was so happy that these things were said because it taught me not to look to other humans for my approval because you could be your best, and that best may never be good enough for other people. I looked up the Mother Teresa poem, ‘Do Good Anyway’ and had Joshie to read just first and last parts, explaining that this is the basis for my decision making:
“People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway…
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.”
I said, “Joshie, I will continue to be the best wife to your dad because everything is between God and me. My reward is with Him!”
Fast forward to this morning, I asked my son Emmie to have an appointment with God with me. Instead of our usual devotional for kids, I said let’s read my book. I asked him to pick a number, and astonishingly he picked post number 352 of 366 posts, where I wrote this:
“Be the best spouse you can be. In the final analysis, it’s between you and God. (Wink! Wink!) Marriage is our important work from and for Him! Let’s teach future generations to fight for their families, too!”
Of all the 366 days in my devotional, for Emmie to pick this specific one was all God saying, ‘Nik, I’m here with you! Let’s keep fighting TOGETHER.’ It was even good for me and hubs to hash out this issue. We woke up even more committed to each other, both reminded that we have the best spouse in the world (HUGE SMILE).
No coincidence Emmie picked this post of all the ones in my big book. It was all God letting us know that He is in the fires with us, He is in the storms with us! Let’s keep our eyes FIXED on Him being the people He would have us to be.
