I REALLY NEED TO START RECORDING OUR CONVERSATIONS!!!
Honestly, every discussion with my brother/guru, Kevin, is filled with profound wisdom that I can take to improve my life. Like yesterday, he said that none of us are perfect, but we should NEVER GIVE UP TRYING to be better. We should not be so hard on ourselves or others because none of us ever get it completely right. Honestly, that was the perfect message to me because I’ve been beating myself up a lot because I say I will do all these things every day and end up miserably failing (like my book that I’m not working on!). But Kevin’s message reminded me to never give up trying to be the person I aim to be. Every day I can reinvent myself or even reinvent myself several times in one day and KEEP TRYING. Fall a million times, get back up a million and one!!!
Then we also talked about how everyone is talking about how foolish I am for staying with my husband. Kevin said, “Neeks, you love your husband, and you don’t have to make any apologies for that!” I explained that my marriage at this point was beyond love. It’s a commitment to my husband (I’m ride-or-die loyal!) AND my entire family.
People don’t realize that when you have kids, you have to stop thinking about yourself and start considering what’s best for the entire team. My happiness goes to the back seat! The emotional, crazy baby whiner starving for hubby’s love and approval must go, and a wise, mature, calm, unconditionally loved and approved by God woman MUST take her place, doing her thing for her God and her family. WE MUST BE OBEDIENT TO GOD, NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OR SAYS!!!! GOD ALWAYS KNOWS BEST!!!
Kevin once explained that marriage is like a team. When one spouse is weak, the other has to be strong, and vice versa. So when hubby only has 20% to give, I want to be that 80% for him because that’s what he loyally, genuinely, and faithfully does for me. When I went crazy on him recently for a few seconds, he asked me one question that stuck with me, “Nik, I’m here with you every night. Every day I go out to work doing my best for you guys. What more do you want from me?” That’s what God and Kevin have both been trying to teach me TO FOCUS ON HUBBY’S POSITIVES. Kevin says, “You have a husband that respects you. He takes good care of you and your kids. There’s nothing more you can ask for than this. Neeks, enjoy your gorgeous life!”
“The world will be more loving because of our relationship!” I say to Kevin. Honestly, because he has been such an extraordinary support to me, I’m forcing my daughters to spend their summers together so that they can keep their sibling bond strong. This life is too rough to do on our own! We need each other! Now we pass the love torch on to you! Go out there and love yourself and the entire world! Let’s charm God by making all our actions pleasing to Him!!! Wink Wink!
“No man is an island. All have influence, and when you influence a person for good, that person influences others for good as well, and the ripples of love continue outward.”
“And the things that you have heard from me among many witnesses, commit these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also, – 2 Timothy 2:2 (Taken from Mottos for Success Calendar)