“THE MOST PAINFUL THING I’VE EVER EXPERIENCED IN MY LIFE”

Those words from Meagan Good regarding her divorce helped me to understand what I’ve been going through for the past two years. It’s been painful, let me tell ya! From one low to the next lower moment. But can you believe now that I’m on the other side of all those hurts, I’m THANKING GOD? Yup, your girl here needed her heart broken a zillion times to look at my life from an entirely different viewpoint: A GOD PERSPECTIVE, BABY!!!

It was my brother, Kevin, who said to me under my God tree one day something like, “Neeks, you’re like a boxer right now. After getting hit in your head like 10,000 times, you eventually get numb to the pain.” That’s what has happened, the figurative (not real, guys!) blows don’t affect me the way they did in the past. The emotional, weak, and wreck of a person, needed to go! This was all God’s LOVING way to help me become the Neeks He would have me to be: courageous, tough, brave, strong, confident in Him woman, but at the same time, loving, gentle, loyal, faithful, enduring, kind, and going the extra mile wife, mother and person HE WOULD HAVE ME TO BE. Thanks to the pain!

I was at brunch with Kevin one Sunday, when an elderly server said, “You have to have a shield on so that nothing gets through to bother and upset you.” I wake up now and put on my shield. The disappointments still come, but with my shield on, I don’t let them get to me anymore the way they used to. I now live from a space of having one foot on earth with the hurts, disappointments, messiness, clutter, challenges, and brokenness exist, and the other foot in heaven FOCUSED ON GOD.

Last Sunday, when I didn’t go for my run, was a BIG lesson. These times under the tree are where I touch base with God to get His direction for my life and the decisions He would have me to make. Five minutes after telling a new friend that Dr.Charles Stanley explained that the Biblical principles that ring true to me are the guide I should use to make wise decisions. I gave her this specific example:

“Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty. Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart.” – Proverbs 3:3

At 8:59, I decided to read page 85 of our family’s website, and this incredibly showed up within minutes:

“Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty. Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart.” – Proverbs 3:3

No way this was some ordinary coincidence; it was God revealing His invisible Presence with me as if saying, “High five, my girl, you’re getting the lessons that I’m teaching you!” HEEHAW And this is what gives me the confidence to face my days confidently and joyfully knowing there is never a moment when God is not standing STRONG with me:

“He is the God who makes me strong, who makes my pathway safe.” – Psalm 18:32

That love and loyalty He had me go all the way to Nigeria to learn. Thank you to a great gentleman who personified this verse, Sir Lucky Omoluwa, who will live on forever in our hearts. It’s easy to love people when they are strong and doing what we want, but the real challenge is loving them despite their mistakes and failings. With God’s strength, may we love others the way God loves us. Amen.

“Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he’s the one who will keep you on track.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

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“SOMETIMES I DON’T MIND YOU HAVING THE WORST DAY”

Is what God tells me! God, me either! (HUGE SMILE) These awful days bring me closer to Him and to the other side of some great lessons He would have me to learn and share with you guys. The awful day was Sunday, and your girl here was all hurt AGAIN. But I’m getting like a boxer who becomes numb to the pain after getting their head knocked so many times. Warrior style, STAYING LOYAL, FAITHFUL, AND COMMITTED, all for the glory of God!

My daughter, Julie, insisted I go for my run to have my alone time with God, but I stubbornly didn’t go, telling her that I knew God was with me at every moment and the run wasn’t necessary. Then, whenever I’m upset, I run to food for comfort. I ended up eating brownies and pizza with my Tom Brady mindset to train every day like an athlete completely going out of the window.

The following day, I woke up still in a funk but decided to play some music to cheer myself up. I told you guys that God speaks to me a lot through Apple Music, and this station I created the night before, where Apple Music selects the songs from various artists (not me), this song, which is extremely special to me and God played:

“I feel good
When you’re wrapped up in My arms
Dancing to a reggae song
Feel good, feel good
I feel good
‘Cause your perfume isn’t loud
And only I can talk about
Feel good, feel good” – Feel Good, Beres Hammond

I wrote all about it yesterday, like a crazy person:

“I’m living life from the perspective that whatever comes my way, the blows, the challenges, frustrations, disappointments, that I’m walking through life at every moment with God, where He is smelling my perfume.”

Fast forward to today, I’m waiting for some cars to come up at the auction to purchase for our family hustle and decided at 29 minutes past the hour to have an appointment with God, look what sweetly showed up on page 29 of our family’s website from almost a year ago:

“Not only does He comfort me with so many of our favorite Bible verses that show up everywhere, but He also sings to me! Call me crazy, but this morning, in the middle of my run with Him, I was bawling, crying like a baby feeling so loved by God. This God wink started when I woke up to have my regular appointment with Him reading our family’s website, we rollwithgod.com. At 51 minutes past the hour, I go to read page 51, with this post showing up at the top:

“‘I FEEL GOOD’
Let me tell ya! I’m having the best time listening to Beres Hammond’s song, as if God is singing to me:

“I feel good
When you’re wrapped up in My arms
Dancing to a reggae song
Feel good, feel good
I feel good cause your perfume isn’t loud
That only I can talk about
Feel good, feel good”

God said I should find new ways of enjoying Him, and I’m doing exactly that, imagining that I’m going through my life wrapped up in His arms dancing to a reggae song, with only Him smelling my perfume. (SMILE)”
No way this was a random coincidence! It was God sweetly reminding me that this is where He wants us all, walking through life, cool, calm, and confident, KNOWING THERE IS NEVER A MOMENT HIS INVISIBLE PRESENCE IS NOT WITH US. That hurt from Sunday was just the blow upside the head I needed to get myself focused on God and not the craziness going on in my head, feeling so insecure and fretful all the time. Nik, you’re God’s girl, baby!!! I got a beautiful message yesterday on WhatsApp that I knew was God again talking directly to me:

“But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid (John 14:26-27). May you be braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think in the name of Jesus Christ.

May the Lord of the host open your eyes wide to all the courage, strength, and wisdom he has for you in Christ. May the Lord crush your INSECURITIES AND DOUBTS (Wink! Wink!) so that you might be an effective witness of his power in Jesus’ name. God richly bless you please child of God.” Amen!

God, I want to be an effective witness for You! If I’m honest with you guys, these insecurities really hold me back. But God makes everything beautiful in His time. When I look back on how silly I’ve been, He lovingly tells me to keep going as if nothing has happened because crying over past failures is only a waste of time and energy, which are precious gifts from Him. He holds our sins away from us as far as the east is from the west, and that’s where He wants us with others. “Love covers a multitude of sins.” AND HE LOVES US FAR MORE THAN THE WHOLE WORLD EVER COULD!

Let’s stop going wrong by looking to others for their love and attention and start focusing on God’s love. We can then share His love with others while focusing on God and the vital work He would have for us to do. Wink! Wink! I’m having such a great time with my kids as I teach them the family hustle. But they are teaching me lots too, like intense focus, hard work, and giving our best every day. Amen! I love my family! We ain’t perfect, but we’re pretty close!

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CAN I BRAG ABOUT MY BROTHER/ANGEL, KEVIN, AGAIN?

For the past three years or so, he has been this special adviser sent to me by God Himself. No joke! The relationship we have is on an out of this world level. He speaks to me directly from God. The craziest thing was that my husband had reported me to him when the crazy lady had shown up one day, but when Kevin called me back, he said something like, “Neeks, forget this foolishness you and your husband are fighting about, work on getting your daughters to school in the US.” From that point on, whatever my hubby said, I just went along with him like the best wife ever, just to get my daughters in a school in the US that I have no doubt that God Himself picked out for them.

Fast forward to now, I’m thanking Kevin for being my guard rails and keeping my eyes on the prize and what God has in store for my life. Today, I spoke to my daughter, Ember, at her country club university where she and her sister both qualified for almost $30,000 a year scholarship because they graduated from that high school in the US. “I bow to you, my daughter! You have been consistent from day 1 (I have her excellent kindergarten report card as proof that I keep as a reminder to me to stay consistent with her siblings that are following in her footsteps).

None of this just happened on its own, GOD HAS BEEN LOVINGLY GUIDING OUR FAMILY. Today, I was back at the Audi dealership that inspired my husband to build one just like it in Nigeria. Again, all the courage, strength, favor, and wisdom are from God. We have no doubt that He is with our family and why I take such pleasure in telling you guys, “DON’T MISS OUT ON A LIFE WITH GOD!!!”

It’s not always easy, but thank God that I have my brother Kevin who gives me such good advice. Like, him advising me to get closer to God and to make God my top priority. Yesterday I felt like I was back in the boxing ring taking another blow, but I took it for the team. Hurts and disappointments are still a part of the deal, but I wisely use them now to do what Kevin said and I get closer to God. Knowing how I was feeling, God gave me the most tender God wink. I had borrowed Julie’s meditation book and these verses gave me such comfort:

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:6-7

Like I just kept the book opened next to me and I just kept looking at these words: “UNDER GOD’S MIGHTY HAND,” feeling that’s where I needed to stay and not get all crazy and emotional. As I posted my blog to Facebook, this message popped up on my screen a few hours later: “Your post to MIGHTY HANDS OF GOD (Wink! Wink!) was approved. I knew this was His way of saying He was with me on another difficult day. It is what it is, guys! We take the good with the bad, the happy with the sad, keeping our focus on God asking what He would have us to do. In fact, I knew it was Him even singing me this song today:

I’m living life from the perspective that whatever comes my way, the blows, the challenges, frustrations, disappointments, that I’m walking through life at every moment with God, where He is smelling my perfume. I cleaned up our house a little yesterday and told Julie that if God is always with us, let’s keep our house clean for Him. Joshie’s friend, Isaiah made my day when their other friend wanted to leave. He said, “Why do you want to leave? This is the best house in the neighborhood.” The friend replied, “I know!” Here I’m thinking our house is always such a mess, but I think they feel the love that they’re always welcome, the games the boys have, and they have complete access to the snacks.

On Saturday, I had a difficult situation at work I was handling and we were all blown away by how everything came together. We have no doubt that God is our Partner the way everything went so smoothly.

So, when the difficult stuff comes, I want us all saying, ‘No problem, God, we got You, the way You always have us!’ The world is in a crazy mode right now, but let’s all be angels like Kevin, going gently on ourselves and others.

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I LOVE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

The way He shows up for me with all His love and attention blows the God maniac here away. Like this morning, I woke up reading this old post in my appointment with Him, about some conversations with my sister, Verona:

“At one point, I’m listening to Rob Bell’s podcast and his guest, Don Golden, talked about the slaves from Egypt being freed and how God is calling us ALL to be freed from anything that is holding us back from being the people He is calling us to be. I got so excited calling her back, saying we have to free ourselves from our personal mental slavery and start thinking the thoughts that God would have us thinking not this JUNK we’ve been getting sad and depressed over. The words from Bob Marley’s song came to mind, “Free yourself from mental slavery.” After talking to her, I sent her a text, “Google Bob Marley’s song. Wow, He is speaking directly to us.”

Minutes later, God reveals His intimate Presence with us. She walks past her nephew’s bedroom, and he is UNBELIEVABLY playing this very Bob Marley song, “EMANCIPATE YOURSELF FROM MENTAL SLAVERY.” Honestly, I can’t get over the sweetness of God, letting me and her know that He Himself is with us as we take on this superhero role for our families, all for His glory. This was His way of encouraging us both to continue joyously carrying the crosses He has assigned to us. God, ANYTHING FOR YOU!”

Fast forward an hour later after reading this, I’m in our kitchen cleaning and playing music, and what song incredibly plays out of my library of close to 1,000 songs:

“Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery
None but ourselves can free our minds” – Redemption Song, Bob Marley

You may call this a coincidence, but it was God once again revealing His invisible Presence with me. I loved a conversation with my daughter, Ember, today. I told her how I’m getting my head back together, but that while I was down going through my little dark time, God stood strong with me. The lyrics of this song perfectly articulate what has happened:

“But my hand was made strong
By the hand of the Almighty
We forward in this generation
Triumphantly”

I got Ember to this beautiful, state-of-the-art, top-rated university in New York in my terrible state of mind. My other daughter, Julie, is waiting to hear back from the top universities in the world for acceptance and scholarship offers. My sons are both aiming for all A’s at their school where they are establishing a solid work ethic and learning responsibility, as EVERY DAY they MUST focus and give their best. My nephew, Duro, is a different person now since he started his internship with Amazon. I’m so proud of the business here that I’ve been trying to get back on track, that I have no doubt that God Himself is helping me. And hubby and I cooked Nigerian food together for the boys through video call today. I got to tell him how overwhelmingly thankful we are for this big sacrifice he has made for our family by allowing us all to leave him in Nigeria while we are in the US. “I will never forget this!” I told him.

I say all that to say, don’t play around with your relationship with God. Seek to please Him all day by making wise decisions from His perspective: ‘God, what would You have me to do here?’ Let that be our goal. In my weak, sad, and depressed state, He overwhelmingly loved and supported me. So much so that I’m running with Kevin’s statement from the other day, “If Jesus can ask God to forgive the people who nailed him to the cross, who can’t we forgive?” We must continually wipe the slates clean for ourselves and others when we mess up. Let’s be God’s superheroes in the world, especially in being the glue to hold our families together.

“Put on the full armor of God so that you can fight against the devil’s evil tricks…That is why you need to put on God’s full armor. Then on the day of evil you will be able to stand strong. And when you have finished the whole fight, you will still be standing.” Amen!

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“HOW THIS WOMAN GET SO STRONG?”

Those were the words from my brother/angel, Kevin, unbelievably from over two and a half years ago that I keep in my head ever since he sent me this WhatsApp message:

“Only thing you can do now to help, especially those beautiful children you have, you have to show them how to keep a solid head. You have to let them admire you for being a strong woman. And more than anything else, the people on the other side that are causing all this ruckus, you have to let them see you like an individual they’ve never seen before. How this woman get so strong? Living her life and not even checking. You don’t have to check for nobody. You are well taken care of.”

I’m running with those words, “HOW THIS WOMAN GET SO STRONG?” here to teach you all what Kevin and God have been teaching me with this message from God continually showing up:

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9

Your girl here has been through A LOT!!! But it was all a part of my training/curriculum from God to be the wise, mature, focused, happy, peaceful, loving, courageous, brave, bold, hardworking, and content wife, mother, and person God Himself would have me to be. HEEHAW! I now ask how I can respond to situations while glorifying and reflecting God. Nothing is wasted! He uses all my messiness and makes it my message to you guys that His invisible Presence is with us in every single moment. It’s just for us to develop a relationship with Him, learn His voice and direction, and be obedient to Him. This is the way to the best life!

I can’t get over all the love and attention God shows me. Like this morning, I sent a text to another one of my angels saying they are teaching me this:

“Not to be the emotional, crazy lady reacting but a wise woman responding.”

Fast forward to a few minutes ago looking for that message from Kevin, this showed up in the same email that came up:

“The goal is to develop spiritual stamina so when a problem occurs, I don’t react out of emotion but out of wisdom.” Wink! Wink!

The exact text message from under the tree a few hours ago. God is pretty talkative! I want us all going through life being these wise people, responding to every situation from a God perspective. Like under the tree, He gave me this tough advice to follow when the crazy lady in me wants to make an appearance:

“…God has been teaching me about learning to vent to Him and to others I should remember silence (SUPER HARD!!!). I explained that it is an act of love towards another person when you sometimes hold back words and do not speak. A part of being wise is knowing when to speak and when to be quiet.”

Like this angel explained: Life is chess where you strategize 4 to 5 moves ahead, not checkers where you just react without thinking through the next moves. Last week I accidentally took a wrong turn, and my GPS immediately recalculated the new route. That night, watching some reels on Instagram, a video explained that life is like that GPS. It didn’t take me back to the beginning of my route; it simply recalculated from where I was at that wrong turn. We are to accept all our mistakes and failures from the past and simply recalibrate by looking at where we are now and what we need to do from that point to still reach our goals and dreams. We can continually wash the slates clean for ourselves and others, learn the lessons and keep going forward with God.

Kevin said yesterday that if Jesus can ask for forgiveness for the people who nailed him to the cross, who can’t we forgive. He told me that my cross is a dust of a cross that God has asked me to carry. A few hours later, I dropped my sons off at Calvary Church, reminded that Jesus was hung on Calvary and that I’m to continue lovingly and joyfully carrying the cross from Jesus on God’s behalf. God, anything for You!!! May we all be the spouses, parents, and people who make Papa God proud. Amen! Not easy, but for this God who is doing so much for us, lets be the going the extra mile people in love, patience, and gentleness, all for His glory.

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I WENT A LITTLE CRAZY YESTERDAY

Writing this long post saying how God sang to me through this song:

‘Girl you know you with a Winner
Name a place I could take you there
I’d do anything to make you laugh
And you can have anything just ask
But just know that I’m selfish
I can’t help it
But it’s all for you
Yea it’s all for you
I’m selfish
I want you all to Myself
You don’t need nobody else’ – Selfish by PnB Rock

Crazy right? Like why the Creator of the entire universe would say He wants me all to Himself. Well, He even went as far as to confirm that this was Him singing to me. Of all the YouTube content, He had me fall asleep listening to Dr. Charles Stanley say this:

“So look at your adversity, whatever it may be, and ask yourself the question, God, how have I been acting? How have I been responding? And let me just say this, you may not be a Christian, and you think, What in the world is all of this about? Here’s what it’s about, it’s about God, getting your attention. Sending you enough heartache and pain and suffering that finally it’ll drive you to Himself. You can resist it. You can rebel against it, but only to your own hurt and pain. What He wants is to for you to recognize HE CREATED YOU FOR HIMSELF (Wink! Wink!), not for yourself… Surrender your life to Him and watch Him. You say, Will that take away all my adversity? Not necessarily…because you see, look, He knows how much of that you need to make you the person He wants you to be. But you do have two choices. You can rebel or you can surrender. And that’s the best way and that’s my prayer for you.”

God, I surrender! I’m all Yours! I’m not proud of how I’ve been acting like a babyface whiner. I have to go back to my mentality in this old post:

“As of yesterday, August 24, 2020, I want to give my life COMPLETELY to God. To wrap myself in His love (no other love necessary!) and go through every moment of my life KNOWING I’m completely loved, approved of, and accepted by God. To be His girl totally, following His leading at every moment of my life as to what He would have me to do – complete surrender! To be the mother, wife, and person, He would have me to be. Not trying to get love from others, but just showing up as my most loving self, sharing God’s love with everyone. Like my brother, Kevin, taught me, I want to SHINE BRIGHT. Like if you’re not rolling with God, you’re missing out on the best life! I want everything about me to REFLECT Him:

“Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”

I just wanna be His, glorifying and enjoying Him! That means continually keeping my focus on God as I walk through life wrapped up in His arms, sucking up all His love and attention!”

Today, as of February 25, 2022, I want to rededicate my life to God, and may my life be all for His glory. Every circumstance. Every relationship. Every decision. Amen.

“Peace in the world starts in the home.” – Mother Teresa

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‘I WANT YOU ALL TO MYSELF’

That’s God singing to me yesterday:

‘Girl you know you with a winner
Name a place I could take you there
I’d do anything to make you laugh
And you can have anything just ask
But just know that I’m selfish
I can’t help it
But it’s all for you
Yea it’s all for you
I’m selfish
I want you all to myself
You don’t need nobody else’ – Selfish by PnB Rock

And the reason I can say confidently that this was God singing to me is because of all the love and attention He shows me. Like yesterday, I got a call from my WISE AND WONDERFUL cook in Nigeria, Victoria. I said to her, “I have to go back to your advice: “When you are with your husband, he is your husband. When you’re not with your husband, he is not your husband. When you see him just do what you do when he comes home from work, “Honey, how are you, honey. How was your day, honey? Just pet him up. Don’t stress yourself about anything else.”

I hung up from her, and I went back to watch for the cars I was waiting to buy at the auction (the family hustle!). I started thinking, ‘Nik, you really need to listen to Victoria. Just sweet up your husband when you speak to him and just have a mini-vacation from him for now. Be happy!’ I then turn to watch the auction to see if the car was up that I was waiting for, and unbelievably, I look on the screen and of all the auto dealerships, VICTORIA (Wink! Wink!) AUTO SALES is bidding for a vehicle. I just smiled with God because I knew this was another God wink where everything lined up too perfectly to be some random coincidence, it was Him again figuring out a sweet way to let me know that His Presence is always with me. He knows intimately what is going on with every detail of my life.

But the God wink didn’t stop there!!! So, when debating what to write about today, I thought about sharing how this Victoria Auto Sales showed up at the auction. Minutes later, I go to have an appointment with God at 25 minutes past the hour on page 25 of our family’s website, and look what incredibly showed up there:

GOD GETS IN ON OUR FAMILY JOKE!

This God wink started from Joshies’ first day of summer camp almost two weeks ago. He told me about a short guy in his class who began referring to another slightly overweight kid in the class as “BIG DADDY.” I told him how mean and terrible that was (for the record), but we ended up keeping this “BIG DADDY” as my little fun nickname for Joshie. Then one day, I’m talking to my husband, and Joshie says to him, “Hey, BIG DADDY!” and we’ve all just been having a terrific time with this “BIG DADDY” thing.

Fast forward to this morning, I’m talking to my husband, and I asked him, “Do you want me to call you Papa Bear or BIG DADDY? I like calling you BIG DADDY (SMILE).” We were buying cars together at the auction, and there was a Range Rover he was interested in buying, and I said, “This is a BIG DADDY RANGE ROVER.” You guys are not going to believe this, but in less than one hour after our conversation, a message came up for one of the sales at the auction saying, “If sale – Online Bid: BIG DADY CARS INC. (Wink! Wink!)”

See the love and attention I receive from God! He confirmed that it was Him revealing His Presence with me yesterday when Victoria Auto Sales showed up. This is what gives me the peace, joy, and courage to take on my life that God is with me at every moment. Yes, He does ask some difficult stuff of us (this pretending you don’t see what you see and not hearing what you hear is HARD!), but I write off the hard things against all the good God is doing for me (even singing to me that He wants me to Himself).

I had such a beautiful day with my God and my kids yesterday. Joshie and I looked for cars at the auction to purchase today, and to see him so enthusiastic about our family hustle made this mama so proud and happy. Emmie came over and gave me the longest hug ever and I was grateful to God that I get to be this superhero mom on His behalf. Julie jokingly said she wanted to have an intervention with me because she feels I like half and half milk a little bit too much. So, when she went out, I called her asking, ‘Can you please bring some half and half when you come home please?’ Just having fun with her! I LOVE MY LIFE WITH GOD!!! I must thank Big Daddy hubby for this huge sacrifice he has made for our kids to be here in the US and him staying in Nigeria without us. It hasn’t been easy on our marriage, but I’m doing with what one of my fav songs say:

“So come on, let it go
Just let it be
Why don’t you be you
And I’ll be me?
Everything that’s broke
Leave it to the breeze
Why don’t you be you
And I’ll be me?” – Let it Go by James Bay

It is what it is, guys! Sometimes you just have to wipe the spit from your face and swallow some bitter pills, but you do it for God. He tells me to take everything out on Him, practicing patience and keeping silent, and staying on the HIGHEST road, leaving difficult battles with Him. Julie and I are anxiously waiting to see the university God has picked for her. My other daughter is certainly enjoying the one where we know God Himself selected for her without any doubt. We are just praying for His will to be done in all aspects of our lives. Amen.

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GOD IS ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS WITH ME!!!

And He makes His Presence known. Almost two weeks ago, I suggested that a customer start a YouTube channel. He texted that he was thinking of a channel title. In my spirit, I felt God saying he should name it, ‘IT’S A VIBE,’ and he will explain the vibe. Well, fast forward to yesterday evening, he was at our office, and we got a chance to talk for a bit. We left out together, and as I’m driving home, with God being my DJ, look what song incredibly randomly started playing:

‘IT’S A VIBE’ (Wink! Wink!) Song by 2 Chainz

Again, this was one of my God winks where everything lines up a little bit too perfect to be some ordinary coincidence. I called the customer, and he said, “This is a sign.” And trust me, it was a sign that God’s Presence never leaves us. Every thought, every text message, every moment of our lives, HE IS THERE. For all the songs to play, minutes after leaving this person who I suggested to start a YouTube channel with that very name, was all God. No doubt. Although invisible, God makes His Presence felt!

And the vibe is what I hope you are picking up from these posts. That we have access to God’s voice on a moment-by-moment basis. We can feel a vibration in our souls about what God is saying. Like me telling him that ‘It’s a Vibe’ should be his YouTube channel name. I felt God whispering it to me. And that song playing was God confirming, ‘It was me, Nik!’

So, that’s where I want us, picking up on God’s vibes in every moment. Learning His ways of communicating with you by practicing what you feel He is telling you. Doubt, hesitation, anxiety, not feeling peaceful when thinking of going in a specific direction is God saying, ‘Hold up, let’s rethink this.’ However, feelings of peace, excitement, enthusiasm, and joy are God saying, ‘Yes, this is a good choice!’ So, all day, practice listening to God. Then look back and see how those things work out. Then you acquire the beautiful habit of always listening to God and being obedient to what He is saying to you.

“Hard things are hard,” I just told my brother, Kevin. God has taken me out on this limb with Him, entirely out of my comfort zone, to do some pretty extraordinary things. But I do not doubt that He is with me every step of the way as I take on this tough stuff. Faith over fear, baby! Talking to my daughter, Ember, yesterday, at her country club/university, I was reminded to keep my eyes on the prize and make wise decisions by following God and not the crazy lady who tries her best to distract me. Devil and crazy lady, go away, please! I’m on a crucial, heroic mission on behalf of God Himself! (HUGE SMILE)

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.” – Ephesians 6:10-11

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“STRONG AND SOFT”

That’s the name of a tissue brand I love! I had fun cleaning the bathrooms at our office, feeling so enthusiastic about teaching our kids the family hustle and crucial values, baby! Like this idea of being both soft and hard, you need both! That’s what God has been teaching your girl here. The trick is involving God in every decision asking when to use what. I’m talking constant, constant conversations with God, all day, every day. It’s a continuous battle to ask God to be the love and priority of our lives, making decisions from His perspective, not our emotional and crazy selves.

Like being away from my husband and taking charge of our business here, your girl is learning to be strong, brave, courageous, bold, unflinching, tough, determined, and fearless. That’s where a relationship with God comes sweetly in. Like yesterday, He figured out the perfect way to let me know that I’m not handling this car business alone. He is with me. We have the motto at our car business that we won’t sell vehicles we won’t drive ourselves, and so I went the extra mile in testing a vehicle myself after a mechanic had fixed it. Can you believe at exactly 3:11, God took my attention to the last three digits of the trip odometer of the vehicle, and it said 311. That lined up too perfectly to be some ordinary coincidence. It was God Himself letting me know that He is personally involved in this family hustle with us and that He is intimately involved in every moment of my life (HUGE SMILE). Me and my sons were so proud driving that vehicle, knowing we were selling a great car to our customers.

And that 311 showing up was again a reminder from God regarding me being soft and staying on the high road with Him:

“But the Spirit produces the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. There is no law that says these things are wrong.” – Galatians 5:22-23

Super tough, let me tell ya, but that’s where the self-control and constant conversations with God come in, asking Him what He would have you to say, what He would have you to do, and where He would have you to go. As I stay on the high road with God, he floods me with His favor and blessings, and why I say, ‘God, anything to please You let me learn. Amen.’ Make sure you have your appointments with Him where you learn His voice and specific guidance for your life. Back to enjoying the day with my kids and our family hustle where God is our Boss!!! Wink! Wink!

“The Lord will bless His people with peace.” – Psalm 29:11

MY LIFE IS A MESS RIGHT NOW, AND THAT’S OK!

These verses come clearly to mind:

“Though the fig tree does not bud and no fruit is on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though the sheep are cut off from the fold and no cattle are in the stalls, yet I will exult in the LORD; I will rejoice in the God of my salvation.” – Habakkuk 3:17-18

That no matter how terrible the situation, I can rejoice knowing God is with me at every moment. Giving me His unconditional love, approval, help, wisdom, favor, tact, personality, charm, strength, angels, unlimited resources, friendship, protection, insights, power, and strategies to help guide me through any set of intimidating circumstances. Our hope is in God!

Are you developing your relationship with God? Trust me, we need Him! Like every Sunday, I said I want to talk to my husband about our business here to get his involvement about the direction he would like us to go in as a company. And every Sunday, I leave that conversation as if I’ve been run over by a truck! My husband is not easy, he is brutal with his words. But can you believe I’m grateful for those difficult conversations? Yes, because I see God using them to refine me. To toughen me. Make me stronger, UNBREAKABLE, baby, and able to take on not only hubby’s tough criticisms but whatever life throws my way. With God’s assistance at every second, I got this!

I’m now able to respond to hubby knowing my ultimate approval is from God, not the husband who loves to go crazy on me. God sees me waking up at 4:30 in the mornings trying my best to keep everything going, so I now know NOT to look to other humans for love and approval. In fact, yesterday, while waiting in the dentist’s office, music started playing by itself in my earphones, and I knew without a doubt, this was God singing to me:

“You should let me love you
Let me be the one to
Give you everything you want and need
Baby good love and protection
Make me your selection
Show you the way love’s supposed to be
Baby you should let me love you” – Let Me Love You by Mario

That’s been God’s song to me for YEARS, but NOW I get it (hey, I’m a slow learner!). God, I will now take you up seriously on that offer! I’m finally getting the message that I’m to look to God for my love, not to other humans. My job is then to share God’s love with everyone, including this GREAT husband I have. I told him after he royally fussed me out that we will never forget what he has done by allowing his family to leave him in Nigeria to go to school in the US. So, no matter what he does, we just have to bury the bad against all the good. And there is so much good. I need to read this dedication I wrote to him every day, though (LOL!):

“My Hon, when I met you, I loved you because you were perfect. Fifteen years later, I know you’re not perfect, but I love you even more. Thank you for putting up with me, your also imperfect, God maniac wife! I want to show you every day that God loved you so much that He gave me to you as your wife. I’m honored to spend my life with you and to be the mother of our four beautiful children.”

So, don’t play around with your relationship with God! We need to offer Him our hands at every moment, seeking His guidance in helping us be the super tough, loving, and JOYFUL people He would have us to be in the world. Gotta run to take my son, Joshie, to do a Spanish makeup test! My sweetie is tackling these difficult classes like a real champion! I’m so proud of my family, y’all! We ain’t perfect, but we’re close! All glory goes to God Himself for all His help!

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” – Isaiah 26:3

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