That was me to my new God connection yesterday. We call ourselves “The 311 Girls” because it is our reminder from God to stay on the highest road with Him, being our most loving and best selves, all for His glory. And unbelievably, God gets in on these conversations about the 311. Like our birthdays are the same month, she is on the 13th, and I’m on the 31st. So after meeting her, I needed to go to a car that I was selling to get the mileage, and the miles were exactly 113311, with her 13 and my 31 showing up, followed by the 311. I told her this was no coincidence but God confirming He was the one to connect us, and He wants us both on the 311 bandwagon.

Then, after another conversation with her, I immediately went to buy cars at the auction, and the first car to show up was being sold with this run number 3/111, out of thousands of cars. I sent her a picture and text that we’re 311 strong. Then, after another talk with her, I immediately went to my computer, and on the screen was a report I had left off working with from the night before, and the last date was 3/11. Again, I sent a pic to her!

Yesterday, we talked again, and immediately after hanging up, in the WhatsApp group I was in, there was a voice note from a Pastor for 30:11. I again sent her a pic! We even ended that conversation talking about this 311 as I encouraged her to be her best self no matter what anyone else was doing. So for this 30:11 to appear on my screen immediately after talking to her is a message to us all today: TO BE OUR BEST SELVES, ALL FOR THE GLORY OF GOD!!! No matter what anyone else is doing, we’re to keep showing up as our best selves for God! KK? This God who is so loyal and faithful to us, let’s shine brightly on His behalf!

Can you believe I just stopped writing to give my husband a call to remind him of something urgent and the word count was precisely 311? That’s, again, God making us all aware of His Presence! And speaking of this husband, he inspires me to be my best self. What I called to remind him about, he said he was already on top of it! I keep telling our kids that we’re here in Nigeria to overwhelm their dad with love, appreciation, and respect for all he does for us. He is our gift from God! Nobody gets it right all the time, but the 311 is about loving others unconditionally the way God loves us and going the extra mile in love, mercy, gentleness, faithfulness, and patience. So help us, God! Where our human strength fails, God will help us to keep going.

Pray and ask God for help with anything you are struggling with. Just how He makes Himself available to my friend and me to remind us that He is with us as we seek to be the best wives, moms, and people for Him. He is there with you to help you with your struggles. Let’s pray more than ever this year, and in any area we find ourselves failing, let’s reach out to God. PRAYER CHANGES THINGS!!!


It was a Facebook comment I loved recently! But to be honest, forget about you guys; these posts help me! They’re my crucial reminder that I’m not going through life alone and that I have the ALMIGHTY GOD WITH ME AT EVERY MOMENT, HELPING AND GUIDING ME. Let me tell ya, this God-perspective changes everything!

Like this morning, having an appointment with God with my husband, I prayed, asking God what He had to say to us through my meditation book of Bible verses. I took this one as our high five from God after hubs and I have seen God show up and fight so many battles on our behalf in the past:

“What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?” – Romans 8:31

God even went to the trouble to confirm this when this old post showed up 20 minutes past the hour on page 20 of our family’s website:

“In a down moment yesterday, I had an appointment with God reading Day 209 from my book, Keep Calm, You’re Rolling with God, and this message showed up:

“God has these unimaginable plans for our lives when we stick close to Him, not leaning on our own understanding… I love a cartoon picture with a little girl walking along a path with a huge hand holding her little hand with the caption: “IF GOD IS FOR US, WHO CAN BE AGAINST US?” (ROMANS 8:31) Fast forward two minutes later, I then went to my meditation book, Jesus Always, which is written as if God is speaking directly to me, and it incredibly said: “IF I AM FOR YOU, who can be against you?”

See how deeply God is involved in our lives! I remember sitting on a step in our home almost a year ago, feeling overwhelmed and down, asking God where I could go to hear from Him. He first took me to my book where I shared that story, and TWO MINUTES LATER for me to randomly open of all my meditation books, that specific one and page asking, “IF I (GOD) AM FOR YOU, who can be against you?”
These all lined up too perfectly to be ordinary coincidences! From the appointment with God with hubby this morning for that verse to show up and for God to take me back to that post from almost a year ago is Him making us all aware of His Presence that is always with us. That we can ALL be the little girl in the story, walking along a path with God’s huge hands holding ours as we bravely, courageously, boldly, joyfully, wisely, lovingly, faithfully, and hopefully tackle whatever comes our way. Showing up in every moment doing our utmost best, listening and being obedient to God, then leaving the rest of the battles for Him to fight on our behalf, taking life one step and one moment at a time. Wink! Wink!


This is God’s continual reminder from Isaiah 41:10 that is forever showing up all over the place and where I want our MINDSET FOR 2023: KNOWING THAT NO MATTER WHAT WE FACE, OUR HELP COMES FROM THE ALMIGHTY GOD HIMSELF. That’s faith, baby! As we show up in the physical realm, doing our best, God is at work in the spiritual realm, tweaking and tackling situations on our behalf. “DO NOT FEAR, I WILL HELP YOU” Wink! Wink!

I’m not going to lie to you, 2022 has been an extremely rough year, but it left me with some great lessons to share with you. Like I can’t get over how I went all crazy in a post yesterday writing about how God showed up to reveal His Presence with a friend and me through this verse:

“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives. – 1 Peter 3:1

So, it’s a little fun thing I do with God, every day asking Him what He has to say to me in this book of over 300 pages of Bible verses. After writing that post about how this was the very first verse God took me to in that book day before yesterday, about four hours later, I remembered that I didn’t ask God what He had to say to me that day through it. Can you believe that was the very first verse AGAIN I opened to when asking God what He had to say to me through it? It was even quoted on an entirely different page! It lined up too perfectly to be coincident. I freaked out again, sending it to my friend with this critical reminder I took from it: “THIS AGAIN IS GOD LETTING US KNOW HE IS WITH US.”

And this awareness that God’s invisible Presence is always with us is the firm foundation on where I want us to build our lives. In every moment, we have access to God. His wisdom, love, favor, strategies, guidance, protection, help, and support. It’s just for Him to become the center of every move we make. Even when He asks difficult things of us, we can do everything by His strength within us. Doing everything for the glory of God!

But God revealing His Presence to us, continually showing up for us, and letting us know how much He loves us is another BIG lesson of 2022. His deep, steadfast, and unconditional love and approval of us, no matter our mistakes and failings, is what I want us to take into 2023. Even at our lowest, He is there to help us get back up and KEEP GOING. And this unconditional love, mercy, and forgiveness that He shows us is where He wants us to be with ourselves and others. Nobody’s perfect! GOD IS LOVE, and I want us all to reflect His love in the world. Let’s use all the negativity and evil in the world as our motivation to spread even more goodness and love on His behalf. So help us God. See ya in 2023!!!


This is another one of my God winks, where everything lines ENORMOUSLY TOO PERFECT to be considered an ordinary coincidence. This one started yesterday morning in a conversation with a friend about her marriage. I kept telling her that she had to set the tone for the house, being her most loving self, going the extra mile, and staying on the high road with God, no matter what her husband was doing. Then, by her showing up with that spirit, her husband would be motivated to change. She should do her best and leave the rest with God because nothing was too difficult for Him. No matter how terrible the situation may seem, she should keep giving her best for God.

Fast forward about an hour later, I randomly opened my meditation book of Bible verses, and God confirmed what I said when this was the very first verse that I opened DIRECTLY to:

“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives. – 1 Peter 3:1

I immediately sent a pic to my friend and called her. But she freaked me out when she told me that she had just read the same thing five minutes before. I told her I didn’t believe her and that she should send me a picture of what she had read. She sent this:

“If matters of conscience come up, an unbelieving husband is more likely to respect his wife’s position if it is presented with a “mild temper and deep respect.” Some unbelieving husbands have been won through the conduct of their wives (Wink! Wink!), because of having been eyewitnesses of (their) chaste conduct together with deep respect.” — 1 Peter 3:1” – The Happy Family

Wow! The love of God in action! See how He is so deeply and personally involved in our lives! How could this be some mere coincidence? For me to open this book of over 300 pages of Bible verses and read THAT specific one first, then to call my friend back saying this is God’s marching orders to us, for her to tell me in an entirely different book this same message from 1 Peter 3:1 showed up only 5 minutes before, was completely and totally orchestrated by God to make us ALL aware of His invisible Presence with us. It brought such great comfort to my friend, letting her know that God was there with her helping her to fight and stay strong for her family.

And that’s the love and connection I want the world to feel, knowing that there is never one moment when God is not with us. In every thought we think, every conversation we have, everything we do, and everywhere we go, God is there standing with us. That’s what gives me the courage to keep going no matter the challenging situations I come up against with the mentality of “if my God is with me, who can be against me?” And having that bravery and strength to joyfully tackle my life, walking by FAITH and not by sight.

Like I told my friend, nothing is too difficult for God! It’s just for us to keep moving forward, holding onto His hands as tightly as possible, asking Him on a moment-by-moment basis what He would have us to do. Sometimes that means walking with great pain, but we do it as a sacrifice for God (handing the hurts and disappointments over to Him and keep going!), who is doing so much for us that we can’t even begin to count, hiding the pain behind a big smile. (Wink! Wink!)

Life is not only about our happiness; it’s learning to think of others and continually asking God to help us do His will, not our own. We can then respond to disappoints with love, forgiveness, hope, optimism, mercy, courage, and purpose to spread more goodness in the world. I promise you; this is how God lovingly guides us on the best paths. Not always pretty, but always worth it!

I loved a conversation with my brother, Kevin, yesterday, who said life is like you’re flying a plane. Sometimes you get to land on a nicely paved landing strip, and sometimes you have to land in some messy bushes, but wherever you land, you must keep recalibrating and figuring out how to GET UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD.

And once you know that God is there with you, wherever you land with whatever the challenges, you hold on to Him for guidance and direction on a moment-by-moment basis, asking what He would have you to do (or not do), where He would have you to go (or not go), and what He would have you to say (or not say) following His voice with you! WE FACE NOTHING ALONE; GOD HIMSELF IS WITH US! It’s a practice of learning to go to God in every move you make! KK? “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.” – John 10:27 God, may the entire world learn Your voice and direction for our lives. Amen!

“TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6

These verses have become the foundation of my life. Meaning I don’t have to have the next 100 steps of my life all figured out; I can simply go to God each step, acknowledge him by asking what he would have me to do, and be obedient to him and go to the next step. Again, ask what he would have me to do, be obedient to Him, and then go to the next step. Got that? My life has become a continual conversation with God as to where to go, what to do, and what to say. And if I get it wrong, God even knows how to use my mistakes and failures for my good, teaching me crucial lessons that He Himself would have me to learn.

Here’s how I made an important decision recently. After begging my husband to come and visit with us in the US from Nigeria, he insisted that me and our four kids come to him there. After seeing I wasn’t going to get him to come to us, I said let me have an appointment with God about it. The message I received was that we were to overwhelm the leaders who work so hard for us with love, appreciation and respect and I said that’s my husband. And I took it as my cue from God that we should go and make the long journey to see him.

Before making this final decision, hubby had already asked a travel agent to search for fights, and she found seats for us to fly on Qatar airways. Fast forward to me going back to my desk about thirty minutes later after that appointment with God and deciding to fly on Qatar Air, a Google screen suddenly appears on my screen as if I had typed this in the search bar: “world cup Qatar 2022.” I promise you guys, I did not type this, and no one else did. It just suddenly appeared on its own as God giving me a personal confirmation that this trip to Nigeria was what He Himself would have us to do.

Trust me guys, I have no interest in The World Cup and I would not have typed it into Google. This was God letting me know that His Presence would accompany us on this trip. Even when there was rough turbulence on the flight, I was at peace knowing God Himself was there with us. Again, that’s the peace and love you can’t buy, knowing God is personally involved in your life.

It happened again today when we went out with hubby. On the way to where we were going, I had an appointment with God reading back an old post from our family’s website about a time I was working on my book until 2 am in the morning, and I wrote about the Boys to Men song, ‘I will get there.’ I promise you guys, as we got in our car to leave from where we were going, my electronic Nook reader again open by itself to this exact post in my book, Keep Calm, You’re Rolling with God out of 366 posts there, with God revealing and confirming His Presence with us. The peace and joy you cannot buy with God making you aware of His invisible Presence with you. Are you getting closer to Him? Make sure you go to Him in every decision and begin feeling and listening to Him deep within you as He directs your path, one step at a time. Peace!!!


This one sentence is where I want us all: I will trust in God’s faithfulness! No matter what comes our way, I want us holding on to God’s hand knowing that His Presence is always with us. Even if we have to say it 1,000 times a day as a reminder: I will trust in God’s faithfulness!!! I have lots going on, but this was my high five from God!


That was me to God, dancing on my way from my God tree this morning, singing these lyrics to Him:

‘Who am I gon’ lean on when times get rough?
Who’s gon’ to talk to me ’til the sun comes up?
Who’s gon’ take Your place? There ain’t nobody better
We belong together ‘– Mariah Carey

I WANT THE ENTIRE WORLD HERE, SINGING THIS SONG TO GOD!!! I was extra happy this morning after two early morning God winks. AGAIN, everything lined up a little bit too perfectly to be some ordinary coincidences with God sweetly revealing glimmers of invisible Presence with me. (HUGE SMILE)

Like right before going to sleep last night, I read these verses on our family’s website:

“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” -2 Corinthians 4:8-9

The old post reminded me that no matter the troubles I face – hard pressed on every side – I could hold my head high, knowing God is with me to get me through any storm. I said, ‘God, high five!’ Fast forward to this morning, I have a book that my friend Mabel recently gave me with Bible verses, and can you believe these verses showed up on the second page I opened today? In this thick book, God took me specifically to these verses just to let me (and you!) know that His invisible Presence is always with us to help us take on any challenge that comes our way.

Also, yesterday, I decided to have an extra long appointment with God on Tumblr.com, just saying to Him, ‘God, I want to be with You! What do You have to say to me here?’ Honestly, there were so many posts that spoke to me, including this one that I shared before:

“I will not give up, give in, give out or give over ’til that healing takes place. I made a vow, I said the words, I gave the pledge, I gave a ring, I took a ring, I gave myself, I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words… in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad…so I am standing NOW, and will not sit down, let down, slow down, calm down, fall down, look down or be down ’til the breakdown is torn down! I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances, or listen to prophets of doom, or buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular, convenient, easy, quick, thrifty, or advantageous… nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God’s real thing, nor will I seek to lower God’s standard, twist God’s will, rewrite God’s word, violate God’s covenant, or accept what God hates, namely divorce!

In a world of filth, I will stay pure; surrounded by lies I will speak the truth; where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God: where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse; and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God’s faithfulness. I am a STANDER, and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit. I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome. I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse, nor the urging of my friends, nor the advice of my loved ones, nor economic hardship, nor the prompting of the devil to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up ’til my marriage is healed.” Tumblr.com via lnrevolution

So, that was yesterday evening, and this morning I get to my God tree (in the darkness of the morning), asking God for a page number to read for our time together, and He leads me to page three of our website and can you believe this very post I just quoted is at the top of that page. Out of 141 web pages, God took me specifically there. Let me tell you, God is pretty talkative when we listen and pay attention to what He has to say.

I love this post on so many levels, though! Not only in regards to my marriage (I’m sticking with my vows, too, to the best husband in the world) but in regards to my ENTIRE LIFE:

“…and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God’s faithfulness…where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God…I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome.”

Our God is faithful! I can’t get over how He can use everything for our good when we keep our focus on Him (not the world and what may be going on around us!) and are obedient to what He asks of us. I’m on this wilderness experience with Him right now, and it has been challenging, but I’m extremely happy for this alone time with God.

This morning, I got on my knees just thanking Him for sticking so close to me that I know that in every moment I have Him by my side and by His strength, everything I have going on will be successfully handled. Faith is knowing God has your back!!! And that gives me the peace, joy, and courage to take on my life, KNOWING MY HELP AND SUPPORT COME FROM GOD HIMSELF!!! Heads high, my peeps, OUR GOD IS INTIMATELY INVOLVED IN EVERY DETAIL OF OUR LIVES!


That’s the advice I got yesterday talking to a new reader of my blogs. “Nikki, you say the same thing every day. It always has something to do with your tree. They are very long and boring. Make them shorter!” Can you believe God got in on our conversation? I turned over a book that was next to my laptop, and it was already opened to this:

“Among the virtues which leave the deepest impression on the human spirit, which is the clearest of was influence the life and activity of men, is the Christian, theological, virtue of hope. In other words, if you take the same man and see him living in the fresh air of hope or lying under the weight of despair… In our relationships and contact with others, WE ARE EVERY DAY (Wink! Wink!) WITNESSES.” – Jesus As Friend

No way, after all those brutal remarks from my friend yesterday, that this book was opened to that very page next to my computer where I type these blogs. That was a message from God Himself to me – Nik, you’re my EVERY DAY witness!!! And honestly, it’s my honor and privilege to share my relationship with God and how He shows up for me in every aspect of my life so that hopefully, you will feel STRONGLY His Presence with you, too. That we’re not going through life alone and that GOD HIMSELF is ALWAYS with us! So instead of being overwhelmed and weighed down by the circumstances of our lives, we can have hope, baby! That the LORD Himself is on our side helping us! That’s my testimony!

I have to tell you about a special God wink I got under the tree yesterday, though! I started the day sending this message to my support group, saying to my brother Kevin that I’m ON CHILL mode like he taught me. Fast forward to going to my tree, I’m on the phone with my mom, and Kevin shows up there with her. I spoke to him for less than one minute, saying I was ON CHILL MODE FOR LIFE, and I hung up from them. Within thirty seconds of ending that call, in my library of close to 1,000 songs, look what song played:

“Maybe we can be ON CHILL (Wink! Wink!) tonight
Tryna hear all your problems so I can lighten the load
No you’re not fighting alone
‘Cause I’m protectin’ you from ’em, so chill”

No way this was some ordinary coincidence for this song to play within 30 seconds of that conversation with Kevin! God again found a sweet and fun way to reveal His invisible Presence with me and you with that vital message! And this awareness of God’s Presence is what gives me the courage, joy, and peace to take on my life. God wants us all here on chill mode, not taking anything too seriously because we are trusting Him. God Himself is behind the scenes of our lives, fighting for us and protecting us! THAT’S FAITH, BABY!

After speaking with this new friend, though, I needed to talk to her husband about some business, and honestly, he gave me such good advice. He pretty much said that we women are too emotional and we need to be more logical. Wow! That sums up where his wife and I get it seriously wrong and something that God has been trying to teach me for years now. God even brought it up AGAIN under the God tree today:

“Like this morning, I sent a text to another one of my angels saying they are teaching me this:

“Not to be the emotional, crazy lady reacting but a wise woman responding.”

Fast forward to a few minutes ago, looking for that message from Kevin, this showed up in the same email that came up:

“The goal is to develop spiritual stamina so when a problem occurs, I don’t react out of emotion but out of wisdom.” Wink! Wink!

This friend keeps repeatedly bringing up the same frustration, and I keep telling her that this situation was not her business to be concerned about (Let go and let God, my sweetie!. I said a big part of being wise is to know the battles we’re to fight and the battles to leave with God. Our job is to show up in every moment, asking God to give us the strength, guidance, and abilities to take on the battles that HE HIMSELF WOULD HAVE US FIGHT and not get distracted by the petty issues that make us all emotional and crazy. Me included! Stay focused on God! Amen!